The Arewaa man incurs no loss in the expiration of the marriage contract. His house remains intact because whatever you brought as a bride must have been replaced in time & he deems it his including the kids & emotional investments. After decades you'll leave poorer than you came
As a new bride you furnished the whole house with your beauty and material possessions you brought with you. You journeyed together for years motivating, praying, advising, supporting & encouraging the man to reach the peak of his career or trade.
You birth sons & daughters for him. You cook for decades & are the main caregiver of the children. In the process the skin sags, breasts drop & looks depreciate. The man also gets bald, pot bellied & wrinkled in his struggles to provide for you & his children with luxury.
So you see it was a collective process to get to the peak after two or three decades of starting. People grow up, people get disenchanted with one another & people fall in/ out of love. These are realities that happen to married people too. Let's not blame the man or woman.
God forbid the various differences escalate & a divorce happens the story changes.That collective journey is redefined. The house becomes the man's, so do the kids & efforts that took them to the peak. She suddenly becomes like one of the cars to be sold off when malfunctioning.
God help that woman if that man was her sole project and her life revolves around him for those decades? Her faith, her confidence, her shock absorbers must be super strong if not that is a candidate for depression & many other psychological & physical ailments.
She only gets to go with her clothes & ornaments back to a father's house she left three decades ago? She is separated not just from the only house she knows but from the children she bore under hardship, nurtured with love. The only dreams she harboured are nastily terminated.
The man however after retaining everything marries a younger wife & relives his youth all over again this time around with affluence. He gets to have a new wife & children to pamper.
Who is the biggest loser in this situation I ask? Don't come here to tell me this is true Islam!
Who is the biggest loser in this situation I ask? Don't come here to tell me this is true Islam!
