[THREAD] As my generation (millennials) is getting ready to have kids or already has young kids, how can we be better parents and spare our kids some of trauma we may have experienced growing up? Well, let’s start with the most important. We need to go to therapy. Without
solving some of our core issues, it will show and we will give it to our kids even without meaning to. It could be because we get angry due to our own mental health, or dismissive or things like that. Remember that when our parents had us, they also had good intentions for the
most part. They wanted us to be happy and grow up to be successful but intentions don’t matter as much. Second, we cannot fight with our partners in front of them. Yes, even when they are “asleep” they may not be and can definitely hear it or pick up on it. If you and your
partner are going through a rough patch, you can go to couples’ counselling or wait till you have some privacy to talk things over. Also, don’t hit your kids, don’t scream at them. That’s not how respect is created. That’s how fear is started, and the goal is not to have your
kids fear you. Another thing and I think it is very important, you need to be ready to accept your kids for they are. They can identify with another gender than their biological sex, they can have a different sexual orientation than the one you think they would. If that’s not
something you can handle, then I suggest reading and educating yourself on that to be better parents to your kids. Another point that I think is important is to provide a safe space for your kids to talk to you. If you get angry or punish them too often, you erode that trust
to the point that they will think hiding things from you is better for their wellbeing than sharing. Honestly, we can write whole books on that but these are some of the points that I think are the most important. Hope that helps a little 😊💚
Credit to @chalokyun who asked me to write about this topic 😊
