Some experienced workers aren't aware that there are similarities between most deaths.
We need to know this.
I discovered this by being there myself.
They are inevitable. The day will come for all of us. For a few it won't be a bed, but perhaps a car or a park bench. But for most of us, death will approach gradually, & we will have a chance to recognise & reflect on the situation.
They have things to say. And we can help by listening.
Let them feel heard.
Accepting their forgiveness is a gift you can bestow.
Funny how hard it seems to say so. Until death comes along. Or even then.
I have more to say about both...
At a deathbed, symptom control should be impeccable.
My pinned post describes this in more detail in a 4 minute video.
So please prepare.
Each one is a chance to get better acquainted with dying; to witness the gradual change from alive to no-longer-alive; to learn how to have those precious conversations.
To be companions as, in our own turn, we will be accompanied.
It's an act of love.