Thread by @Kudu_ze_Kudu

There is no need of that because girls are being taught that even before they attain menarche.
The question is, when are boys going to be taught how to actually be good husbands and their roles in marriage?
If you were a woman, you'd know that "ndoa" has been the backbone of

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everything women are taught to do.
Literally, a girlchild is being groomed to be a wife from a young age, being shown their place and "responsibilities" as mothers and wives.
But I don't see that happening to a boychild. They are just let "to be boys" and suddenly they marry and

expected to transition to be men, fathers and husbands.
Nobody prepares them for that.
Nobody teaches them anything during puberty.
They are left to figure out everything themselves because "they are boys"
And then we wonder how comes the marriage institution is failing miserably

It is because one party spends their whole lives being prelared for it, and one rarely even get the pre-wedding seminar.
The boychild doesn't have religious or social seminars for marriage, but a girlchild has a ton of them.
I wonder why?
If it's an argument over women walking

away from their marriages today, it is the positive result of the process of unlearning the toxic nareatives that have been passed down for centuries and led to many women's deaths, morbidity, STDs and mental health issues.
Today, they are walking out from unions that abuse them.

While we fight for the girlchild everyday, society keeps on bringing up that the boychild is forgotten, but this society never does anything positive for the boychild who has been ingrained a lot of negative narratives that disadvantage him.
The boychild is the victim of suicide,

the major perpetrator of violent crimes like homicides, rape & the like, the abused who holds on to silence because "boys don't get raped" and the victim of mental health problems because "boys don't cry"
The boychild is abandoned by the very people who spent centuries demeaning

the girlchild, and now the boychuld is only used as bait to guilt-trip those fighting for the girlchild but in reality they don't really care about him.
If there is one person y'all gotta REALLY WORRY about their place in MARRIAGE is the MAN.
Male victims of abuse by their wives

CANNOT speak up why? because society will laugh the hell out of them for being verbally, emotionally or physically abused by "a woman", it is "emasculating"
Men are major perpetrators of domestic violence and sexual abuse in their families.
Doesn't that worry you?
Isn't it creepy

that parents even fear letting their daughters sit on the laps of uncles, fathers sometimes, or just spending time alone with them?
To me it is alarming.
It is alarming that, when I see a man walking behind me in a lone road, I immediately turn into fight or flight mode because

somehow my brain has been set so, that the person could possibly rape and/or kill me.
How comes with all these, still the society DOESN'T even FLINCH and think, "huuh...the boychild ACTUALLY needs guidance, unlearning and relearning"?
But it keeps on "poking holes" on"what should

really constitute what a girlchild re-education and empowernment"?
Maybe because we go back to the root of the discrepacy we have today between these two: misogynoir, entitlement, supremacy, patriachy.
It is the only credible explanation for what is going on in the society now.

I know for a fact, women do not need more lessons on marriage because we have had them, actually right now we are being re-taught toxic lessons that have been putting down the family unit.
We are being taught to NOT stay silent over the abuse, to contribute to the family economy

to NOT be abusers of our husbands and children, and to not accept the things that put us down.
But, what do I know? 😊
@FestoNgadaya @joshuasultanPT

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