1. Hasan AlBasri said
"Jealousy will burn your faith faster than a body decays after death."
- If you feel jealousy pray for them instead
- know God has something in store for you as well
2. Be happy for people finding love.
Dont sit there and judge them.
It has become increasingly harder to find someone compatible because of people's ever changing expectations and wants, the internet doesn't help, and true compatibility takes time and doesnt have a formula.
3. Save your criticism commentary :)
Everyone always has something to say. Keep it to yourself.
"Whoever believes in God and the last day, let them say good or keep silent"
Many theological concepts are taught to your average Muslim in a decontexualized ahistorical ideal
It becomes detrimental in lives of average Muslim who tries to make sense of how it applies in modern daily lives
Examples:
Archaic elements of Kalam theology
Al Wala wa Al Bara'
Reliving in the shadows of our tradition or the confines of books that we constantly regurgitate without articulating a theology that responds to the issues of our time becomes a self fulfilling prophecy of stagnation and what AbulHasan Nadwi refers to as "intellectual sterility"
My respects to all those who are excited & rep
Ashari or Maturidi kalam, or Athari stances
But reliving the theologies that answered problems of 10th or 13th cent isnt exactly called progress
Im absolutely amazed at all of the ways Islam helps temper our over thinking!
🔸Reflect over the benefits and the blessings
- of opportunity, garnering experience overcoming, blessing of it not being worse than it could have!
🔸Engaging in meaningful repetition remembrance dhikr
🔸Thinking positive of the Almighty
🔸Understanding when a hardship is not a punishment but a form of elevation! The Almighty tests those whom He *loves* the most!
🔸Recognizing the real effects of sins in one's life and consequences to cease and turn back to God
Some people are hurt and they cry,
some people are hurt and they laugh and try to show the world they're okay.
Give space if they need it, but check on both with reassurance and allow them safe space to vent.
Some who've been raised in religious circles often dont teach or counsel emotional management
Psychology is not their forte so it's easy for many to be dismissive of the actual need to be able to learn how to counsel emotions
While it's true that our tradition is rich in study of human emotion & counseling, it doesn't mean that post colonial religious institutions understand the advancements made in psychological study
Im glad @KhalilCenter exists that shows what compliments:
Psychology in tradition