1. Hasan AlBasri said
"Jealousy will burn your faith faster than a body decays after death."
- If you feel jealousy pray for them instead
- know God has something in store for you as well
2. Be happy for people finding love.
Dont sit there and judge them.
It has become increasingly harder to find someone compatible because of people's ever changing expectations and wants, the internet doesn't help, and true compatibility takes time and doesnt have a formula.
3. Save your criticism commentary :)
Everyone always has something to say. Keep it to yourself.
"Whoever believes in God and the last day, let them say good or keep silent"
4. 'We have to call out evil!'
No you dont need to go on a crusade on the internet & spend your time all day speaking to people in a way that is going to make them dislike faith to begin with
Especially if you're anonymous troll
No one said 'an anonymous troll changed my life'
5. Islam doesnt have a rubric and detailed How to Dummys guide to finding compatibility.
People find and go about it the *right* way differently.
Just keep in mind what worked for them... may end up in public humiliation for you if someone publishes your sliding in DM.
6. Sharing your private life on the internet is a personal decision.
Im not going to comment on it but people have minds and intellect to assess their own benefits and harms.
Spiritual benefits and harms are a discussion for a classroom setting, not criticizing people openly.
7. Not every woman is going to accept or like you sliding in their DMs. Especially if there is no connection, no introduction, no mutual network.
Exercise some common sense and read about how to approach people.
And again anecdotal examples also dont mean theyll work for you.
8. Dont be a creep or creepy.
9. If you see people's reactions online it only reinforces the importance of why understanding, developing, and studying purification of the soul and spirituality.
Don't underestimate it.
Learn about relationships and spirituality if you care to make it lasting.
10. Just so I have a 10th thought,
Learn
Learn
Learn
You dont learn communication, conflict resolution, maturity, how the opposite gender functions - by osmosis.
11. Just so witr (odd numbers) are sunnah (encouraged by our Prophet):
Spend less time ruminating of possibilities & more time investing in yourself & practical steps to your goals
Ibn Al Jawzi says its weakness to grieve over something you have capability & access to achieve
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Many theological concepts are taught to your average Muslim in a decontexualized ahistorical ideal
It becomes detrimental in lives of average Muslim who tries to make sense of how it applies in modern daily lives
Examples:
Archaic elements of Kalam theology
Al Wala wa Al Bara'
Reliving in the shadows of our tradition or the confines of books that we constantly regurgitate without articulating a theology that responds to the issues of our time becomes a self fulfilling prophecy of stagnation and what AbulHasan Nadwi refers to as "intellectual sterility"
My respects to all those who are excited & rep
Ashari or Maturidi kalam, or Athari stances
But reliving the theologies that answered problems of 10th or 13th cent isnt exactly called progress
Im absolutely amazed at all of the ways Islam helps temper our over thinking!
🔸Reflect over the benefits and the blessings
- of opportunity, garnering experience overcoming, blessing of it not being worse than it could have!
🔸Engaging in meaningful repetition remembrance dhikr
🔸Thinking positive of the Almighty
🔸Understanding when a hardship is not a punishment but a form of elevation! The Almighty tests those whom He *loves* the most!
🔸Recognizing the real effects of sins in one's life and consequences to cease and turn back to God
Some people are hurt and they cry,
some people are hurt and they laugh and try to show the world they're okay.
Give space if they need it, but check on both with reassurance and allow them safe space to vent.
Some who've been raised in religious circles often dont teach or counsel emotional management
Psychology is not their forte so it's easy for many to be dismissive of the actual need to be able to learn how to counsel emotions
While it's true that our tradition is rich in study of human emotion & counseling, it doesn't mean that post colonial religious institutions understand the advancements made in psychological study
Im glad @KhalilCenter exists that shows what compliments:
Psychology in tradition