Thread by @yashkaf

I think that my real objection to this is that I actually believe:

1) People don't spend enough time dating
AND
2) People don't spend enough time thinking
AND
1+2 are complementary, not competing, activities.

https://twitter.com/jmrphy/status/1315051902451675136

Almost all single people I know who say that finding a partner is as important as their career spend 10x hours of effort on the latter. And of course, if all you can come with for dating is regurgitating the same takes in the same bars to the same people you won't enjoy it much.

But every date can be an opportunity to meet a new person with their own ideas and culture and background and reactions. And every date you can be someone slightly different, with different obsessions and ideas. A date is an intellectual open mic.

I've never been part of an intellectual circle as diverse as my dating pool when I was single. I dated woke and Christian and a conservative Malaysian girl, a banker, actress, and cheese-makers. After a year of that I had enough new and exciting ideas to start Putanumonit.