Thread by @DrMonicaCox

I don't go to standard DEI talks anymore because I can't tell what the purpose is.

Is this real talk? Is this performative? Is there a purpose? Is this a check box? Will we have action items?

I need my DEI talks to be classified before I sign up.

Also, can we ask real questions? Is this a safe space to speak? Is this for #BIPOC? Are we teaching basics? Are we changing policy? Are we calling past wrongs out? Is somebody going to be humble? Are there going to be reparations? Are there going to be tears? Whose tears?

Is there going to be a scapegoat? Is it me? Are y'all meeting after to discuss the meeting? Are you going to try to cover up what was said at the meeting? Are you plotting something? Is someone going to get punished? Am I the one who is going to get punished?

Are we going to have to attend more meetings to make people not feel guilty about this meeting? Are you going to create a task force bc you don't want to address the issue directly? Are you going to force me to be on the task force w/ folks who don't want to be on the task force?

Are you going to write empty statements that prove you aren't oppressive? Are you going to ask me to endorse the statement? Are you going to make me take heat for the statement although I am marginalized? Are you using me as your beard? Is there going to be a target on my back?

Is this going to turn into an us vs. them conversation where you try to discredit me bc you won't acknowledge your wrongs? Are you going to gaslight me to not be blamed for your actions? Is this about to make you the victim & me the villain although you are the one in power?