At,some point, I suppose you have to put enough faith in people that they will judge you by the content of your character, past actions, and words; and not by what someone says about you in attempts to hurt you or stir drama.
Just noticed the extra comma.
I blame the shark in raft.
bruce was trying to eat me for dinner.
2:30AM ADHD-depression-anxiety-fuelled addendum:
I try my best. I try to stand up for others, & for what I believe is right.
I don't expect everyone to agree with me, or even like me.
I know I stumble & fail sometimes, because I relive every time I have done, going back YEARS.
What I do - often naively - expect from others is honesty, sincerity, and if a disagreement occurs, debating it in good faith.
I should reiterate - this is a naive expectation, even if you believe most people are good.
There will always be those who seek to pull you down in some twisted attempt to demean you or elevate themselves.
Life is, by and large, a crab bucket.
Don't get pulled back down.
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I was reminded today by a conversation of one of the most (at the time) condescending things I'd had said to me (at that point).
When PJ & I were newly engaged (and yes, young), we attended a party with a lot of people of...shall we say....a higher social status?
(LOL, right)
While I was hiding in a corner (I had no one to talk to about serial killers. PJ is much better at small talk than I_), one of the women came up to me & asked if he was my boyfriend. I smiled & VERY proudly said, "No, he is my fiance!"
She made a show of looking at my left hand.
My ring, of course, was small in comparison to hers. But I treasure that ring. He had to choose between a PS2 or that ring. Come on.
With a condescending smile, she said, "Oh, how nice. I'm sure it will be a sweet starter marriage for you."
Today's #OperaGeek "Serious Talk Times™" is about something difficult: rejection.
Many people think of rejection in the sense of romantic attachments; that isn't what this is about.
This is about other kinds, & perceptions of 'following your dream' as a performer.
Buckle up.
This is about everyday rejections. The rejections that come when you try to do what you love. The rejections that are never voiced, but made known through silence.
The rejections that chip away at you, little by little, until your confidence is blown.
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I told @TheeDoctorB last week about my wall of rejections I'd kept for a while, at the end of/just after college.
It was literally a wall of the letters, printed emails, etc of the auditions, competitions, & programs that sent me a 'no thanks' - often without hearing me.
“They say that the eyes of some paintings can follow you around the room, a fact that I doubt, but I am wondering whether some music can follow you for ever.”
― Terry Pratchett, Snuff
"There were times when the world did not need policemen, because what it really did need was for somebody who knew what they were doing to shut it all down and start it all up again so that THIS time it could be done properly."
"...but what should we do when the highborn and wealthy take to crime? Indeed, if a poor man will spend a year in prison for stealing out of hunger, how high would the gallows need to be to hang the rich man who breaks the law out of greed?"
- Terry Pratchett, Snuff
"I'm not a natural killer! See this? See what it says? I'm supposed to KEEP the peace, I am! If I kill people to do it, I'm reading the wrong manual!"
- Watch Commander Sam Vimes on policing
(Terry Pratchett, Jingo)