A lady wrote a moving thread on Twitter about being raped
I gave her a call
I asked her what happened
She said it happened in a bar
There are witnesses
She climbed on top of him at 7:30pm in a public bar without wearing undies and he "Raped" her
She was the one on top throughout!
I told her I am sure that is not rape
She said "I felt dirty afterward, I felt really terrible. You have to understand how what he did to me made me feel.
I have been writing threads on social media for a long time, I went on Instagram and they insulted me. They said I accuse
everybody of rape
but when i came on Twitter, people listened
I am telling you I was raped"
I said "Okay"
When did this happen?
She said December 2019
Did you report to the police?
No
Did you report anywhere else?
Yes. But they didn't believe me
I said "I also don't believe you"
She said "I hate this gender, this gender is a cursed gender. Why is it that nothing good happens to this gender. Men always get away with the evil they do
and women are always the ones being cheated.
Wow.
I said I was only looking at the evidence and somebody can not rape you
when you are the one on top of the person in a public bar.
You straddled a man and had sex with him in a public place! How can that be rape?
She said, "So what do you want me to do?"
I said you have to pull down that thread
She said "No way. I am using it to build my case. Other
people he raped has come forward to confess that he raped them because i did that thread.
I said, really?
I went to check her thread
I saw a tweet from a lady under her thread.
The lady wrote "Yes. This is the man. He made a pass at me when i came to the hospital with my mother"
How is "making a pass" at someone rape?
I called her back
I said "The lady under your thread said the man whose picture you posted made a pass at her. How is that rape?
If making a pass at a lady is a crime, how would anybody ever get married or get into a relationship? She
started crying
She said "You're not the first person to call me. Why is it everybody wants to silence the victim of a rape? Especially men and older women.
When I faced the panel that investigated this claim, the ladies asked me so many ridiculous questions
Why didn't they ask me
how I felt afterward
If i had sex with someone willingly, i should feel happy but I didn't feel happy after being with this guy
I felt terrible and I am still feeling terrible
I don't know how else I am supposed to explain this to you but I am not pulling down that tweet!
Hmm!
So I asked her why she was trying to ruin the man's life
She said the man was married and shouldn't have been with her
Did you know he was married before you went to the bar or after
She said she knew he was married before they went to the bar together
She didn't plan to be with
him that day
She was having one of those days and he called to find out how she was doing
She told him she was unhappy and he offered to take her out
He offered to buy her food
She said no
He offered to buy her ice-cream
She said no
She insisted she wanted to drink beer
That was
when he took her to the bar
So what happened after you left the bar?
I told him to rent me a room in the hotel
Why?
I was feeling terrible and needed to pull myself together
So did he leave after you got into the room?
Yes, I had abdominal pain & I asked him to get me some drugs
Did he get the drugs?
I suddenly felt lonely again and i also felt better, so I called him that he should come back
So you both slept in the room, on the same bed?
Yes.
Did you have sex this time?
We did
I think this was where he raped me because I told him to stop but he didn't
stop immediately
Did he stop?

Yes. But not instantly
Maybe he did about seven or ten thrusts more before he stopped after I have told him to stop

Oh!

Yes. So do you see?
He really did rape me and nobody believed me and he was not the first person to rape me

Oh!

Yes, there
was this veterinary medicine student who raped me and even beat me up

Wow
When did this happen?

About two years ago

Did you report to the police?
Did you report it?

There was no evidence of rape
The only evidence was the fact that he beat me up and people didn't believe me
when I told them about it
But this time people are listening and I will get justice

Okay. What about the panel you said you faced, what was their verdict?

The verdict is not out

Why then did you do this thread?
Why didn't you wait for the verdict of the panel to be released
before publishing this man's name, pictures, and your allegations on Twitter

Pastor so and so said I should write the thread when I told him about the case, he told me it would get me the justice I desire quickly

(I had spoken with the same Pastor, he had no reason to lie and
he told me the lady had written the thread long before he commented on it and he had deleted his comment when he realized the lady wasn't being forthright about the rape claim.

In my discussion with the pastor, we concluded that the person accused of rape deserved to be
held accountable for many wrongs based on morality, ethics, and so on but not rape)
So i told her I had discussed with the pastor and the pastor didn't believe her story either.

She said "My lawyer told me to write the thread so that she can get the panel to move quickly)
Hmmm.
"But by writing this thread you have pre-empted the conclusion of the panel and decided the case by yourself"

"See, I feel terrible and until I get Justice I don't think i can be fine"

So what is your idea of justice? I asked her

"He ruined my life and I want to see his life
ruined too
I want him to lose his wife and children
I want his life to be reduced to dust and ashes
I want him to feel as terrible as I am feeling
I will not allow him to get away with what he did to me"

"What if you don't get all these things you're asking for?"
I asked her
She replied by saying "I will commit suicide"
It was exactly what the pastor told me prompted him to get involved in the case
He was told she was talking suicide and he felt he needed to do whatever he could to support her so that she can choose to live

It was a very tough
conversation.

I want to ask every young man out there to please ensure they get consent from any lady they want to be with sexually
Pick your phone and make an affidavit video
"I (so and so) hereby pledge that I want to willingly engage in sexual conduct with (So and so), let
this is my consent video! Thank you"
I know it will be awkward and might kill spontaneity but it is better than having to deal with the tag of a rapist all your life
Some of the people who read the lady's thread reached out on her behalf to the man's employer and he had been told
to find a way to clear his name
People who know the truth (With WhatsApp screengrab evidence) are afraid to call the lady out because she had sworn to commit suicide if she doesn't ruin the man's life for making her feel terrible
And this is where the case stands at this moment!

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