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Petra Boynton

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27 Oct

This is your regular reminder that unfollowing, muting and blocking are all options. Curate your timeline to protect your mental health. Your wellbeing, your attention, your time and your energy is precious.

You can also adjust your settings to remove unwanted contacts. Go to settings, filters and muted notifications and tick the boxes:
replies from people who don't follow you
who have a new account
who have a default photo
who haven't confirmed their email and phone number

I'd also suggest keeping your DMs shut. People can ask for your contact details or you can have them included in another link via your profile. And you can also mute words, hashtags and people's names.

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Petra Boynton

@DrPetra

27 Oct

Today's #ResearchTip is if there's an issue you feel strongly on but don't know much about, check *as much as you can* before jumping into conversations. Use history, literature, published research, other documentation. Talk to those directly involved. Helps avoid making mistakes

This is particularly important if you want to form connections with communities, challenge, or bring change. There isn't always a deep history, but often there is. And the things you may feel haven't been attended to, may well have been. Do your homework first.

This might take a long period of time so you are not able to contribute to conversations and actions as quickly as you would like. That is okay. Better to go in informed and useful, or know when to stay in the background, rather than asserting things that aren't fair or accurate

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Petra Boynton

@DrPetra

26 Oct

@SandsUK

@SandsUK work hard to support bereaved parents - mums, dads, and non binary parents. Lesbian mums,straight couples,single parents, wider families. Anyone who has had a baby that died who needs advice and care. Please donate to them if you can afford it sands.org.uk 🦋

When you’re writing about #miscarriage #EctopicPregnancy and #stillbirth language matters. But it is not as straightforward as it might seem. If you’re talking about “mother” as the person who’s physically been pregnant and is straight it’s clear who you mean by “bereaved mum”

But if you’re wanting to make lesbian and bi mums feel included in support and care, just as we should do with dads, it can be confusing if you use the term “mother” to mean the person who was pregnant. There are two mums, one was pregnant and had the physical experience of loss

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Petra Boynton

@DrPetra

1 Oct

I wrote a story about my miscarriages and several newspapers said they couldn’t feature it as I didn’t have a heartbreaking photo of me reacting to my losses to make it “powerful”. A woman shares just such an image today and is shamed for it. Both of these situations make me sad

Things I was asked for
“a photo of you crying?”
(No. I hid my losses, few people saw me cry)
“any bump photos or scans?”
(No because I didn’t get scan photos for my losses and I didn’t take many bump photos for fear of losses)
“Baby shower pics?”
(too scared to consider a shower)

It is really important to normalise grief. To take photos of bumps and babies.Especially after a death to remember your baby. All those things are appropriate,but there are also reasons why they don’t happen.Whatever you do it may not be through choice but it will be with sadness

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Petra Boynton

@DrPetra

30 Sep

https://twitter.com/oleajennyy/status/1311061142597332992

Affordable books are important. Having books available in the library so students can access for free is vital. But pdfs of books mean people don't get sales/royalties. Those might not be much but for many authors they mean a *lot*.

https://twitter.com/oleajennyy/status/1311061142597332992

There's a huge grift here where academic publishers make £££ whatever but authors are made to feel bad for earning royalties, shamed by privileged academics who can write for a hobby and not notice if they make no income. It's marginalised authors especially that suffer.

But also the huge costs of books students are burdened with is unfair, especially to those facing hardship. Easy to see why students wrongly believe academic authors are minted. The answer is to make books accessible and affordable while fairly rewarding writers for their labour.

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Petra Boynton

@DrPetra

27 Sep

Today’s #ResearchTip which is also a #MentalHealthTip that I’ve also shared before is....

....the mute and block buttons are your friends.

You don’t owe everyone a reply or your headspace. Your timeline is yours to enjoy as you wish. Especially in times of stress and struggle.

You aren’t obliged to follow people who make you feel stressed. You can unfollow anyone at any time and you don’t have to give reasons. Also if you see someone being talked about or targeted ask them privately if they want to know. Never snitch tag.

Twitter, like many other on and offline spaces, is really fraught right now and if that is making you feel more anxious, unsafe or angry it’s a really good idea to curate who you follow, consider what you’re sharing, and take some time away if you need to.

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