Thread by @InshallahSZN

15 Lessons that changed my life.

1. Put on weight, look more intimidating. Chest, back, shoulders, forearms, legs.
2. Create a reputation that proceeds you. Getting what you desire is easier when your legend has convinced people of your quality before you even meet.

3. Always tip generously. I rather have class & honour, than money. You don't lose much throwing a R150 here & there.

4. Stop trying so hard to be an asshole. I am the nicest guy, I open doors, carry bags, smile & am pleasant towards women, it has cost me 0 women.

5. Flirt, joke & be pleasant to EVERY woman you meet. Constantly exchanging positive energy with women despite attraction will always tighten up your game, social skills & understanding of women. Sharpening your skill is easy when you don't care what she'll think.

6. Never EVER abandon your word. This isn't about morality, this is about what you stand on as a man. I'm no Casanova, but I'm no slouch either & I'll tell you, authenticity, laser honesty & conviction will get you more pussy than this alpha talk. Be charming, but be REAL.

Look her in the eye, speak clearly, stand on what you want, CONNECT with her & you will say, do, touch & engage as the your aura dictates. Being duplicituous & dishonest only takes away from the experience.

7. Always ensure that your purpose is your number 1 priority. All other pieces of life must fit into that. Self actualisation is the apex of Maslows hierarchy of needs, too bad so many men base their life around the most basic need - sex. Sex will come, stop obsessing over it.

By making your number 1 focus your purpose you can never over invest in unworthy situations, women & shitty relationships ever again because the sex you can gain isn't worth the actualisation & fulfillment you can lose from achieving your shit.

8. Learn to fight, physically & mentally. Learning to handle conflict is so much more than kicking & punching. Sharpen your body & fortify your MIND as most fights sre won before a single punch is thrown.

9. Don't ever take shit from ANYBODY. But learn to not harm yourself & burn bridges you'll in the process. Standing up for yourself is key, but is it smart to tell off your manager/client when you have no other income? Pick your fights, strike when the time is right.

10. Don't desire what you're not willing to pay for. Everything has a price, everything has a cost, nothing is for free. Internalise this. The money & lifestyle you want is tied to sleepless nights & long years of investment, relationship dysfunction & sacrifice...

Those hot girls come with a price tag, constant DM's from affluent men, the pressure & burden to perform socially, financially, sexually, psychologically, the higher tolerance for bullshit. That body you want, hard sweat, pain, failure, perseverance before the triumph

This is all to say, understand the beauty & the pain of all your desires & decisions. Don't try to fake the funk to get the benefit without earning it, cause in reality, the cost of cutting the line far exceeds that of waiting your turn.

Everything in life has a cost & benefit. Being a player has one, being monogamous has one, being poor has one & so does being rich. Understand what you are willing to pay & what you aren't & stay in your lane. Many fatal accidents occur because drivers fail to do this one thing.

11. Have a presence. An aura, a CODE. I pay for the date no matter how it goes, if it's terrible, I signal for the cheque & tell her to leave on MY TERMS. If it's great I do the same. Quit being dependent on others actions before you engage in your own.

Preemptively cheating out of fear of your girl cheating is pussy, breaking your word cause someone else did is weak. I AM the mental point of origin. Its STARTS & ENDS with ME. Good or evil, I do because I desire & don't care what someone else does.

12. Take care of people who can do nothing for you. I've helped a lot of men, sometimes advice, sometimes money, sometimes life... I haven't recieved a penny & I don't need or desire it. I do well for myself but I will NEVER treat anyone lesser for it. Learn this.

Being a good man without expecting an immediate reward is it's own reward. Conquer the insurmountable but show humilty & kindness to the meek. Bossing up on weaker, less fortunate people is a sign of weak character.

13. Money is a very strong currency to incentivise. However, trust, desire to please, loyalty & good faith are better ones. Not everyone can be bought but everyone is loyal to something & someone, relationships are your gold. Mine & polish it to a T.

14. Always put your best foot forward. Shine your shoes, cut your hair, trim your nails, speak clearly, smile, firm handshake, great posture. You never know what opportunity will arise & you must be eager to cease it. Stay sharp, stay ready.

15. Lastly & most importantly. Watch your company. Nothing will kill a man's appetite for greatness quicker than his friends, family & woman. Stop feeling guilty about leaving unfit people behind. Many of us have less than 600 months of life left. Dont spend it being a charity.