Are they really though? The bullies. It can be shouting, making fun of you or talking behind your back. Don't attack back. Disarm them by remaining calm and avoid sarcasm. “Are you done? Can we move on now?”.
2. The “Gaslighting” abuser
They enjoy making you think you’re crazy.
The problem is you, not them. They manipulate to question your beliefs/thoughts & everything around you. They are “in charge”. Disarm them by focusing on feelings; avoid right or wrong. Don’t doubt yourself.
You become a “Manager” or you gain “Followers” online. Both a sign of entitlement. Yet, most get so concerned on their status that they forget about the mission. “Leadership is a choice, not a rank” – Simon Sinek. Make others feel good, feel safe.
2. Nothing is “URGENT”
“This is urgent”. An overused statement that loses its credibility. There is a culture of unnecessary stress, burnout and low-quality work. Unless you work in healthcare, it’s not urgent. Get your priorities in order; differentiate urgent vs. important.
Avoid eye contact? They're shy, hiding something or feeling intimidated. Find out. Looking bottom right? Reflecting their feelings. Bottom left (disagreement), top right (lie/visualising), top left (remembering). Study eyes; know their thinking.
2. Body distance defines openness
They lean away? Negative response. Lean back too. Leaning in: You got their attention. Respect distance, or their first impression won’t be positive. “7% is what you say, 38% is how you say it and 55% is nonverbal communication”- Dan Lok.
Invest time to find someone (or small team) that has the same goals. Push each other forward, in the good and in the bad. Someone that you trust and can be open/honest about new ideas or challenges. This person can be an online stranger. Make it fun.
2. Change environment
You don’t need to hop on a plane. Work from home? Then change rooms. Or go to cafes, libraries, etc. Being stuck in the same space for long periods reduces your creativity levels. Change your surroundings and your energy levels will change for the good.