Connery was 90 when he died. It was 1965 when he gave that absolute trash quote in playboy. Then 1985, then he doubled down Walters. Mid 90's saying he was misconstrued, and by 2006 either had a change of heart saying abuse wrong/realised it was less bother to not talk about it.
Don't get me wrong, hold people accountable, and give them opportunity for growth (not doing the same shit repeatedly). His views were trash then and remained so for many years, but I like to think I've grown in the last 20 years and I hope for the women in his life he did too.
CW, D/V

I grew up in a DV household, and while I never thought my Mum getting hit was right, I did sometimes wish she would just be quiet, so the fighting wouldn't start, when I was 12? I'd be interrupting fights, so I'd get his attention etc
My Mum absolutely idolises her Dad (he died when I was 15). He was a controlling, borderline abusive guy who would blow his stack if dinner wasn't on the table, house wasn't clean, never lifted a finger etc, but prided himself on never hitting a woman.
My Maternal grandmother (who died a few years back), left her first husband after he nearly beat her to death while she was pregnant with my uncle (legit didn't know this guy was a half uncle until many years later and I saw some awkward family photos at my cousin's wedding).
In my family, there's at least two generations, (probably three based on interactions with great grandparents on Mum's side when I was a kid) of abusive relationships. You absolutely have no concept of what healthy is, because horrific was your normal.
Anyway.
💜 to anyone finding all these discussions tough and triggering.

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Remember, when you mess up and rupture a relationship, that provides an opportunity for repair. It is in this repair that relationships are strengthened. No one is perfect (or can be), all we can do is try our best each day.
This tweet brought to you by T indeed having the discussion with Grace and then her having a go at me, Lucas and Eleanor, and me responding in a calm (but not entirely fair, given she'd already been spoken to) way.
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Bots are a thing, sure, but they don't roll out to federal elections and vote for the guy and party (and let's be clear a lot of people vote "for the prime minister" even though politics doesn't really work like that here. It's why the choice of party leader is so important).
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If you make a mistake & you keep doubling down, the possibility is that it isn't a bad day, but rather refusal to accept responsibility for your own actions. When the status of ally becomes more important than the message you're boosting, you didn't really ever support.
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