“The most counterintuitive secret about startups is it’s often easier to succeed with a hard startup than an easy one.” - Sam Altman
I think there’s a similar secret in psych. It’s sometimes easier to become happier than anyone you’ve ever met than it is to just cure low mood
one reason is that with the ambitious path you’ll need powerful tools and tons of self introspection to understand how you work and why you’re not 10/10 already
Whereas if you aim for marginal gains you may try symptomatic treatments that end up doing nothing at all
another is that in my experience most people only have one or two core things (part of identity, a trauma, etc) blocking them, often that they’re unaware of
Without reverse engineering and healing them it’s hard to have any progress, but if you do process can be shocking
Short personal example. Always thought the dominant emotion controlling my life was a desire to help people out of suffering. Nope, turns out it was actually a very specific emotional memory around cuddling at 8yo. Edit that, entire world instantly different
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Current worldview: most everyone deeply believes things that would cause them to lose status that they wished others believed too, but aren’t willing to actually make that trade
Please prove me wrong
I’ve lost ~100 followers on you deserve newborn love and I will continue to climb the empty office buildings and shout it from the rooftops
the only good thing in my formal education was accidental. The dangerous preteen rebellious identity I formed eg getting really into drugs, faking identity actually ended up being extremely healthy, drugs -> psych -> neuro, identity -> dodge child labor law -> start career early
A lot of my peers in my low social-class school got really into drugs too. Where I basically accidentally leveraged into interest in qualia, neuro, psych, hedonic baselines, they overdosed on fentanyl. Roll the dice again and it could have easily been me
also, I’ve never seen anyone else advocate for this, but imo changing child labor laws for outliers is incredibly important
The kids that desperately want to work somewhere real at 11yo are the creative risky weirdos who may accidentally kill themselves if they can’t
give to twitter and it gives back just trust the process
almost everyone I know who got really into twitter had their lives transformed in ways they couldn’t have anticipated. We need an MTV Cribs of twitter where people just talk about how it improved their lives
there's usually like an eight month delay though
twitter wont give you its treasure if it thinks you'll leave it in the morning, needs to know you're committed
woke up to @selentelechia writing a wonderful thread about mine on self-love as feeling like you're with a crush
a few day ago I decided to be a bit more open about my phenomenology and protocol for getting there, so I'll try to respond to some of the things she brought up!
I'm doing-it-live so don't know what it will say but quick infohazard warning. Reading about someone's mostly successful attempt to get to a better emotional state can be painful, or remind you of things you may not be in a great place for right now. You can always read it later!
I regret just listing the crush part but I didn't feel comfortable going deep into what I was feeling when I wrote the original thread (bc of hurting people :/)
On a valence arousal axes it's always positive-valence but all range of arousal