Two people can't be together, love, communicate, and care for each other without occasionally suffering for each other, but if you listen to Twitter, you'd think none of that happens.
You'd think any sign of inconvenience spells the end of a relationship. Many will fall for it
When you are dating, sacrificing for your partner seems like a small deal.
"Is it not just my time? Just an appointment. It's nothing"
After marriage, reality sets in, and sacrificing becomes reality, not theory. Many times, it becomes a lifestyle
You give up getting that shoe because your partner has a need.
You eat a new diet you don't like to support your partner, most cases, a condition that requires a change of diet
Picking up extra shifts at the hospital for your family is sacrifice. It happens almost everyday
The thing is this; it takes two to tango
Sometimes, one partner takes advantage of the other person's sacrifice and does not make any. That's where the problem starts.
It does not even have to be equal (50;50) in reality, It almost never is if I'm being honest
It is each partner giving 100%,
If you have the 50/50 mentality, you might be tempted to keep count which might spell trouble for your relationship or marriage
Seeing your partner sacrifice when the opportunity presents itself is what motivates you to do more
I'm not saying be a doormat for your partner
I'm not saying put yourself on fire so that the other person stays warm
No. There are times you can see yourself die inside because of the sacrifices you are currently making.
Talk to your partner about it, speak up.
Let them understand how it is beginning to affect you, we are not infinite beings and everybody has a limit.
If your partner is a sacrificial as you are or puts your need at times above theirs, they'd see reason with you and do their best to lessen the burden
Communicate
Keeping silent or accepting disgrace while your partner keeps cheating on you is not part of this sacrifice. It is an insult to your relationship or marriage and in my opinion, the fabric of that relationship is broken fundamentally
Being the doormat is a no no
It is both parties accepting discomfort occasionally so that they both move forward
If you are in a relationship with someone who refuses to make sacrifices for you, you need to seriously consider both your futures. Are you prepared to do all the sacrifices?
The truth is this, sometimes, we are selfish to some degree, we struggle with it
There are times that sacrificing does not come easy at all, even for the smallest things
If you are unwilling to sacrifice anything at all, then maybe you are not yet ready to be someone’s partner.
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Some people think that it is caused by Juju, he stepped on something and his leg started swelling. When in fact, it is caused by a parasite that looks like a worm
These worms only live in the body's lymph system. The lymph is different from blood and is clear like in color.
If you've had sex or are currently having sex, this thread is for you. It might save you from a lot of problems in the future
Are you "clean"?
As long as you're having sex, you probably have one variant of Human Papilloma Virus that causes cervical cancer
There are over 100
Out of over a 100, 14 types of HPV(Human Papilloma Virus) can cause cancer including cancer of the cervix
These viruses are very common
You can get throat cancer if you give oral sex to someone who has one of these cancer causing types
Ask yourself: Has your partner tested?
Most people get this virus soon after they became sexually active. That's the most common time for infection for most people. Then they carry it around for a long.
Some variants of this HPV cause genital warts.
Don't say a person is clean just because they don't have HIV
How much salt do you need in a day?
How much alcohol can you take per day?
Is suya bad for your health?
What kind of cooking oil can I take?
Can okra make me infertile potent as a man?
You knowing the correct answer to questions like these is why I do what I do on this platform
This is because I know that the more enlightened you are about your health, the better decisions you will make about your health and lifestyle.
A lot of people just think that by praying and hoping, they would not fall ill.
There are those who have kept all these things and yet
They fell ill. It happens, that is life
But we can tip the scale in our favor.
That is why @mytremendoc has decided to help you get healthier to take a quiz based on your current lifestyle
your answers to these questions will determine what your health score is
Strangely, the presidential address seems to have deflated the verve of the Nigerian Youth. One would hope only momentarily, anyway. A pause to catch our breath and chart the rest of the course with renewed vigour.
It is not that we were surprised that this our Totem-in-Chief’s address lacked empathy for the people or said anything definitive either way. But I would suspect that we are deflated because it appears that the ruling class have dug themselves in and have chosen to draw this out.
They had done this through actions over that last 15 days and now with the subtext of their words.
The message was clear: our movement for a better Nigeria is dead on arrival and is unsalvageable.