Random memory: when we ran the #4Aces blog, there was a photo of us with champagne flutes in our hands at a party, and an Anon left a comment saying we’d always be “mimosa sipping spinsters”. What’s so insane to me is we were < 23 at the time yet were being “taunted” w/ marriage.
Anyway that was the name of our group chat for a long time. Shalla to all my mimosa sipping spinsters out there, must be code for living your best life. People on the internet are fucking nuts 🤣.
Weaponizing marriage against young women; when women (genuinely) stop giving a shit about marriage en masse, the loss of control will be devastating. This is why they work hard to keep us invested in marriage politics by every means from flowery promises to shame & intimidation.
Imagine seeing young girls dressed fabulously having great evening out in NYC, and your chest is so tight you leave a comment warning them of forever spinsterhood. Y’all really hate to see women thriving.

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23 Nov
In Lagos, there aren't many one-way signs. Most streets is on a if-you-know-you-know basis. In addition, they change the rules of a street as they please, today its one-way, tomorrow its not.
In further addition, most government officials and police do not obey *any* driving laws.
If the government wishes to tackle driving violations, the first thing that is their responsibility is to install proper signage, fix roads, and paint proper road markings. Ensure people actually take official computerized and physical driving tests.
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The point of appropriation is adopting something and using it for something other than in the way its unintended to the culture or offensive to the culture.

Wearing a Sari at your Indian friends traditional Indian wedding ✅

Wearing a sari as a halloween costume ❌
Wearing a Jamaican flag and bantu knots to celebrate Jamaican carnival ✅

Wearing Jamaican flag and bantu knots to a costume party ❌
Your white friends wearing asoebi to your trad ✅

Your white friends having an “African theme” party where they show up in African traditional outfits ❌

Getting henna on hands at a culturally appropriate celebration like a Mehndi ✅

Getting henna cos its edgy and cute ❌
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Whether we are participating in the B&W 'challenge', or critiquing its performativeness... We should educate ourselves on its origins. I curated this information from @ auturkishculturalclub and @Beelzeboobz on IG to piece together the story, which is sadly, all too familiar:
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Oppressors want to define your oppression for you, in a way that is palatable to them, instead of believing when you tell them the ways in which they oppress you whether they (willingly) participate or not. I find this to also be the case between cis & queer folks.
It's the reason I have learned to listen & sit with it when queer people name their oppression because oppression is not always about direct participation and its not always in the ways we think it shows up. It's not up to you to set the parameters of LGBTQ+phobias.
People get super offended at being called homophobic in the same ways white people hate hearing about racism and men about feminism, especially those who feel they do not do any direct harm to any of these groups, you become less likely to listen than even outright bigots.
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