I saw her video and made a mental note to post about it. I commend this beautiful sister for being so honest, brave and vulnerable. Allah knows I would be deeply sad if I had a sister tested with marriage. If you don't like profanity please skip this video.
https://twitter.com/Pengpappi_xo/status/1332406847890927616
She uses profanity. Just a headsup for sisters who don't like that.
Moving on....
Dear Single sisters in love (yep the haraam kind)! โค
Moving on....
Dear Single sisters in love (yep the haraam kind)! โค
Firstly, I love you and I pray the man you love is the right man for you and the right father for your progeny. And I pray this becomes halal and Allah facilitates things and forgives you both for your mistakes. With that being said...
Men who truly love will move mountains to marry the woman of their dreams and the future mother of their children. Although just because a man has chased you enough to marry you doesn't make him worthy of you.
Be wise and get marital counselling and make sure he knows the Fiqh of Marriage and divorce. Make sure he is stable enough to support you and your first pregnancy.
Does he know the importance of saving money?
Will he be a hands on father?
Is he well read?
Does he know the importance of saving money?
Will he be a hands on father?
Is he well read?
Does he know about periods and contraception? Yes it is important that a man is equally educated about these topics.
What kind of men does he move around with?
Is he a hardworker and a hustler or keeps searching for shortcuts to make unstable inconsistent quick bucks?
What kind of men does he move around with?
Is he a hardworker and a hustler or keeps searching for shortcuts to make unstable inconsistent quick bucks?
Is he actively involved in the community and dawah scene or is he a loner who is living in his parents home and playing games on his gadgets? Are his family and parents involved in this? Or is he keeping this a secret and all hush hush.
How does he treat his mother and sisters?
Does he ignore them?
Shout at them?
If he is abusing them and is distant from them know for sure you will soon be added to that list. No matter how many hours you guys talk on the phone now.
Does he ignore them?
Shout at them?
If he is abusing them and is distant from them know for sure you will soon be added to that list. No matter how many hours you guys talk on the phone now.
Is he still in touch with his exs or is lax with his interactions when it comes to opposite sex?
He is meant to be a qawwam over you, he is going to provide and take care of you. You are not adopting a baby.
Choose your spouse wisely.
He is meant to be a qawwam over you, he is going to provide and take care of you. You are not adopting a baby.
Choose your spouse wisely.
You are not only choosing your husband but you are choosing the father of your future kids.
I wish sister Hannah had someone who could talk her out of this. But sadly when you are in love you become blind to the person's faults. It is a fact.
I wish sister Hannah had someone who could talk her out of this. But sadly when you are in love you become blind to the person's faults. It is a fact.
The rational part of your brain shuts down that is why people say love is blind and that is why women need to involve walies.
The way a man can access a man a woman cannot. (read 3x times)
The way a man can access a man a woman cannot. (read 3x times)
I know fathers who have shook hands with potential men and rejected rishtas/proposals only to later find out the guy was interested in men and not in women and he wanted to marry only to please his parents.
The experience and outlook our parents and elders have towards life we do not. Please listen to counsel. Please involve community and elders. Nikah is a social contract meant to protect you. Do not give up on mehr.
Step out of your love bubble and listen and listen hard and act upon the advice of elders. Not your peers they don't know better.
The meaning of a Qawwam is a man who protects you financially, physically, mentally, spiritually and emotionally.
The meaning of a Qawwam is a man who protects you financially, physically, mentally, spiritually and emotionally.
Make sure you are marrying a man and not a boy.
Marriage is already a lot of work. Do not marry someone with red flags.
Marriage is already a lot of work. Do not marry someone with red flags.
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