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4 Dec, 5 tweets, 1 min read
You people on here make having feelings for other people sound like a disease sha.
I think that one of the reasons many Nigerian marriages are a sham is because we have made giving a shit about someone sound like the worst thing. I get it, people can be shitty. But I think it also stops people from being as emotionally invested as they should.
It’s a wonder how much of our actions is driven by the logic of “it’s going to end anyway, so let me not be the idiot that got fooled by this person.” We end up doing awful things and hurting people because at least we get to control that.
It’s deeply, deeply unhealthy shit. Let go of it.
If someone hurts you or cheats on you, or lied to you, that’s on them. Your “catching feelings” doesn’t make you a fool or deserving of being trampled on.

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