Scenes from a Marriage s1e1, and I’m once more confident that there’s nothing more embarrassment-inducing than being around a couple arguing.
Also apropos: Oscar Isaac is such a fine man.
There’s so much that goes into us being able to get this representation on marriage and wanting/having a baby. Not least of which is women being more open about what having a baby is really like. I’m grateful for that work.
So I spent the morning yesterday visiting project sites in village communities outside of Yola where there are informal banking clusters. These clusters have been in operation at least 3 years, at most 5. This particular 3yr one has 25 women in it. Ave. loan repayment? 100%.
This is the first session for the new cycle. You buy “shares” worth 200 Naira each, and the amount of shares determine how much you can borrow. Highest amount borrowed this year, 63k. Lowest, 16k. Loans used for stuff like buying engines for Agro processing or school fees.
I think that one of the reasons many Nigerian marriages are a sham is because we have made giving a shit about someone sound like the worst thing. I get it, people can be shitty. But I think it also stops people from being as emotionally invested as they should.
It’s a wonder how much of our actions is driven by the logic of “it’s going to end anyway, so let me not be the idiot that got fooled by this person.” We end up doing awful things and hurting people because at least we get to control that.
So I want to talk about something that’s bothered me since I read about it. It’s about the 13yo boy in Kano sentenced to 10yrs in prison for blasphemy.
Like a lot of us, I read it and it saddened me, but i was determined to unlook. There’s so much in this country to get one down, and in a lot of instances we have to choose between the paralysis of helpless despair and the stoicism of propelling onwards with our lives.
However, the larger systemic things that militate against us as Nigerians manifest themselves also in small ways. Indeed, the endless killings in different parts of the country and the ease with which we condemn young lives to death or cruel sentences are one and the same.
I’m thinking again of the thoughtful cinematography of this scene. Maria is downcast and anguished. The room is dark, save for a triangle of light. The woman lighting her way forward walks into the light by the window. Maria, slowly following behind.
Ok. Quick thread on rice farmers and agric policy in Ghana and Nigeria.
I traveled to Asusuare, two hours outside Accra, to visit some smallholder rice farmers. Mr. Charles here is the chairman of the association of over 3,000 farmers in the Greater Accra region. 30% women, average age 35.
Their challenges are similar to what one hears in Nigeria. I did a similar visit last year to Rice Farmers Assoc of Nigeria (RIFAN) in Badagry, but I work with farmers a lot so I hear a lot of this stuff.
Similarities: ave farm size in Both countries 2ha/person, 5-7tons/ha yield
Ok, let’s do a thread on my time at the Nigeria-Niger border at Babban Mutum village in Katsina yesterday.
Ok, my images aren’t sending so will try when I’m back to civilization.
Anyway. Quick disclosure: this is one border, and I won’t extrapolate further than what I saw. There’s another border in Jibia, for example, but it was far from where I was. I had work there, too, but tired
One of the first things you notice in Babban Mutum: trucks everywhere. Everywhere. Loaded to the hilt with pretty much every household item you can think of.
I’m at the Press Conference organized by Education as a Vaccine, FIDA, and Dorothy Ndjemanze Foundation, among others, on #AbujaPoliceRaidonWomen. I’ll share snippets of video showing these women’s experiences. Caution: it’s grim stuff.
The most extraordinary of women get all the (deserved) praise. Many of us, however, are mediocre, and the world is a cruel place for women who haven’t extraordinary brilliance, resilience, or persistence. We need a world for that works for those women, too #iwd2019
Much like mediocre men can coast, women need to be able to be mid in peace as well. Even those hashtag-amazing among us have off-days at work or home, and a more just world will see us not punished nearly as cruelly for our slip-ups. #iwd2019
I’ve been thinking about Billie King, who had to win a man Bobby Rogan (or whatever his name was) for women’s tennis to be taken seriously. But what if she’d lost? That would’ve put hundreds more women generations ahead back. Why should that be? #iwd2019