1. Hello and welcome. It’s episode 320 of #MrMrsBetterHalf. Mr & Mrs BetterHalf is designed to strengthen marriages & relationships that will lead to marriage, with wisdom from God's Word. 
2.If you missed the last episode on ‘Husband Material- Part 2’, get it here: wakelet.com/wake/iFR-J55uz… #MrMrsBetterHalf
3. Today, we are discussing "Old flames". What to do with past lovers. Yes or no to friendship. #MrMrsBetterHalf
4. So you're married or engaged to be married, but your spouse or fiancé is not the only person you’ve ever loved. Maybe you had a high school sweetheart, a serious college relationship or even a workplace romance. #MrMrsBetterHalf
5. However, though the relationship broke, you and your old flame didn’t end up enemies. Should you remain friends? #MrMrsBetterHalf
6. Married folk, would you be comfortable if your spouse were close to someone he or she used to date or was engaged to? (If you’re dating, I feel you’re not yet committed enough to make certain demands, so I won’t ask you this question). #MrMrsBetterHalf
7. I’ve asked this question in a few relationship meetings and majority of those in attendance gave a resounding ‘No’. Then I asked the same question a different way. Do you think it is okay for YOU to remain friends with an old flame? #MrMrsBetterHalf
8.Interestingly, majority changed their answer from ‘no’ to, “It depends on whether or not we both had sex.” Interestingly, majority changed their answer from ‘no’ to, “It depends on whether or not we both had sex.” #MrMrsBetterHalf
9. (a) Most believed that it would be okay for them to stay friends with exes with whom they had no sexual activity. (b) About a quarter felt that though there was no sex, the past emotional connection could prove to be dangerous. #MrMrsBetterHalf
10.(c) While a small fraction believed that even if they had sex before, they could still be friends & not have an affair. There’s a verse in scripture that says, ‘lest he that thinks he stand be careful lest he fall’ #MrMrsBetterHalf
11. There’s a verse in scripture that says, ‘lest he that thinks he stand be careful lest he fall’. In simple English- don’t be so certain you can handle being friends with a person you used to have feelings for. #MrMrsBetterHalf
12. You may think you’ve tempered your feelings but that may change in the face of temptation. Conversely, you might actually be okay and ready for friendship while your ex still has feelings for you. #MrMrsBetterHalf
13. You don't know the thoughts or intents of another (wo)man- don’t dive in naively. Consider your ways. In considering whether to stay friends with an ex, 2 things to note: Watch your step and Use your head. How do you watch your step? #MrMrsBetterHalf
14. One good way is to ask someone else to help you evaluate the situation. #MrMrsBetterHalf
15. Your judgment alone cannot be trusted. In particular, involve your spouse/fiancé in your decision-making. Some are hesitant to share details because they don’t want to shock their partners. Remember s/he has a past too. #MrMrsBetterHalf
16. It will surprise you that your spouse/fiancé can be a lot more logical about your past relationships than you think. Secondly- Use your head. Take the time to examine the facts. The facts very often speak for themselves. #MrMrsBetterHalf
17. While you ponder on this, permit me to stop here for today. I will continue next week on this same topic to wrap up this conversation. #MrMrsBetterHalf
18.I hope this has been helpful to you. I will be back next week with a new topic. Till next week Friday, thanks for following and RTing. May your marriages and relationships be sweet. #MrMrsBetterHalf
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