"You don't have ADHD unless you showed symptoms as a child". 1. Most girls only start showing symptoms at puberty. 2. Parental support can mean ADHD is unintentionally managed 3. Kids who aren't middle class or white are interpreted as "naughty" so symptoms aren't documented.
4. Parents and teachers are not trained in spotting what ADHD can look like 5. Hallmark symptoms like daydreaming, sensitivity, and hyperfocus are rarely noticed by adults as ADHD 6. Parental pressure means some children will force themselves to "behave" regardless of ADHD
And most importantly 5. ADHD isn't some secret society you need the password to be part of! Stop gatekeeping and start sharing experiences so people can identify whether or not they DID actually have symptoms as children.
When my doctor asked me if I had symptoms as a child, I said no. Later, I remembered my Mum always checking three times I had everything before I left anywhere, my parents trying to comfort a distraught me after any sad kids show, and hours spent daydreaming in the land of books.
I have and had SO many "markers" of ADHD that I know about from learning more about ADHD from experts and other ADHDers...very few of those markers come up in a 101 google search. The more we talk, the more we know, and the more others can figure out if they need to get support.
Okay, it was a bit of a mistake putting this up on christmas eve 😂 I am unlikely to be able to keep up with all the replies, but if you're reading this thread, please check them out! There's some truly awesome introspection going on that will be helpful x
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Btw, if you're an ADHDer, your "productivity" will fluctuate. You'll have low output phases and hyperfocusy binges when you get 1000 things done. This isn't you failing and succeeding- your brain just doesn't function in the linear way you've been taught it should.
The world is designed around people that work in a straightforward and predictable way. ADHDer's energy and attention jumps around and we often complete things in a circular fashion. This is seen negatively through a neurotypical lens, but is really just a cognitive difference.
When forced to try and produce in a step-by-step, same each time way, we often get stuck. We get anxious, we start procrastinating. Because that's not how we WORK. We're driven by interest, emotion, and urgency, not tasks, responsibility and completion.
Hi, if you're looking into ADHD and keep stopping yourself with the "but I'm probably just lazy", please know that everyone I've met who got diagnosed with ADHD as an adult felt the same way before diagnosis. You wouldn't be angsting over it so much it it was just laziness.
This is a subtweet at a dear friend of mine tbh, so ty for any engagement as I can use it as proof that she should take herself seriously!
Okay, I'm jumping on a flight now and there's just no way I can keep up with these notifications. Hoping you all can help each other out in the replies with some knowledge sharing and empathy x
Remember that ADHD symptom lists are often descriptions of how symptoms manifest, rather than the ADHD itself e.g. losing things is not a symptom, poor short term memory is the symptom. The way ADHD manifests for you will be a product of your culture, identity, upbringing etc.
So if you've been raised in a family that is really judgemental about losing things, you likely have a bunch of strategies and anxiety that reduces how often you misplace your keys. That doesn't mean you don't have ADHD- it means ADHD manifests as anxiety in this space for you.
Same with the "interrupting/not listening" symptom, which is actually about attention regulation. My gender as a women means that there's societal pressure to listen. This manifests in me asking lots of (sometimes too) personal questions in convos to keep myself interested.
You've heard of "fidgety boy ADHD", you may even know of "away with the fairies" ADHD, but tonight I give to you....*drum roll*
"Overthinking/highly strung ADHD"
Signs you may fit the stereotype below...
You overcommit to too many activities/projects/people and you're always on the brink of burning because in your head dropping anything would make you a terrible person
You are at the top of your game in the thing you excel at but secretly you feel like you're failing big time in other areas of your life- but you tell yourself it's just because things are so BUSY lately, but you've been saying that for 5 years
I have never experienced racism and am spending my time on Twitter atm learning from and retweeting Black voices. But for those of my followers who are also white, I wanted to share "Ring Theory" which is a concept that helps me when I feel my white fragility kicking in. 1/n
Ring Theory involves drawing a circle and writing the person or people at the center of a crisis inside of it. Then you draw a bigger circle around it, and put those closest to that person/people, and another with the next closest, and so on, until you get something like this:
When something bad happens in the world, I think about where I and the people in my life sit in regards to it, and act from there. Support goes to those impacted more than me, and comes from those impacted less than me. If you're white, you are ALWAYS impacted less by racism.