Thread by @LightPrism7

What is love?

"A mysterious series of events forced me to question all that I’ve been taught and to ask the fundamental question: What is love?"

A THREAD

In mid 2020, a young lady was thrown into my life and when I least expected it, I fell in love head over heals just to have my heart broken and reassembled anew. She acted as a mirror to my deepest fears and unloved parts of myself.

It eventually hit me that all of this pain and suffering I went through was to TEACH me lessons about unconditional love!

It hit me like a ton of bricks, the energy felt crazy once I came to this realization.

The feelings I had for the lady were twisted, distorted, selfish – basically generated and instrumentalized by my ego mind. The real question is:

What is actual, true, pure love? How does it feel like?

What our perverted sick Hollywood culture calls love, especially in the romantic context, is basically a VERY NARROW form of it:
Possessive, manipulative, looking outwards, controlling, punishing, vengeful, etc.

Let's call it Neurotic Love.

Neurotic Love is this “quick fix” love or infatuation which covers up your problems by using this “rush of feelings”, akin to a drug addict waiting for the next shot to escape their suffering.

Needless to say, it isn’t very sustainable!

Even worse, people living out Neurotic Love are actually perpetuating the negative destructive cycle, hurting others who don’t concur with them, even harming people who don’t reciprocate their love etc.

Just imagine how many people have been killed by “crimes of passion”?

So what is the alternative? Well, the exact opposite of Neurotic Love:
Expansive, unlimited and without strings attached.

Unconditional Love.

Unconditional Love is inwardly focused, trying to look at our internal problems before projecting anything outwardly onto other people.

With Unconditional Love, there is also NO DEPENDENCE, i.e. we love and respect ourselves so much that we don’t need other people to “fill some gaps” to make us complete.

Moreover, Unconditional Love will seek to perceive the situation as it is, in a neutral way.
It thus has a wide open focus and is more supportive of the other person regardless of their (perceived) behavior.

Other people mostly don’t seek to hurt us consciously.

Either we are projecting our own insecurities on their behavior, or they are acting out theirs on us. Either way, unconditional love is patient and understanding and can help us to liberate ourselves from vicious cycles.

For me personally, the intense heartbreak I experienced in 2020 was a divine gift to become conscious of my lack of self-love and my constant search in the external.

I recalibrated myself towards more healthy relationships in the future.

A more detailed version of this thread can be found in the Light Prism Blog:

lightprism.net/2020/11/19/wha…

Another related post:

"I came to realize that only if we truly reach the highest levels of self-love, we can unconditionally love other people around us."

lightprism.net/2020/12/02/red…

Last but not least:

"To help the tender little plant of unconditional love to blossom, we can apply the virtues of trust, continuity, discipline, acceptance, forgiveness, mercy and detachment."

lightprism.net/2020/12/14/unc…

A good twitter thread with an interesting perspective of Unconditional Love:

https://twitter.com/ALight412/status/1326166893984575489

Another very fitting thread on the difference between Matrix Love and Divine Love:

https://twitter.com/COCOCabinda/status/1337806093792268297

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