TW: Death.
Makinde Street. Ajibulu Street. Oludegun Avenue.
Street names. Seemingly random, from the Mafoluku community, Lagos. Connected by one terrible truth; On 27th January, 2002, more than 2000 children from this neighbourhood drowned in one night.
The day started like any other. Warm, clear day in Mafoluku, and all across Lagos, Nigeria. Parents were indoors relaxing. Sunday meant the roads were not too busy, so they were filled with children chasing each other up and down these normally busy streets.
The afternoon is shattered by the sudden sounds of explosions. They are strong enough to shake the ground. If you live in Lagos, you're probably used to hearing the sounds of gunshots and fire works. Its a metropolis, after all. Buy this was different.
Thread of Pregnancy/Childbirth/post-partum symptoms and conditions related to pregnancy and childbirth for reference.
I'll start with a few. Please add as many as you can.
My last child is 3. My hair only recently started growing properly. I lost so much hair I had to cut it.
After delivery, you sometimes have this awful discharge that comes out of your vagina. Its sticky and stinks. I believe its your body expelling at the rest of the things that helped you carry and birth your child.
It can go on for weeks.
During my 2nd daughter's pregnancy, I lost hearing in one ear. It only came back months after I had her.
For some women it never comes back.
Here's one thing I told myself immediately I knew for sure I was getting separated - I'm absolutely not raising these kids alone.
I know one would think that was a given, but we are talking about Nigeria here, where even the systems set up to protect families...
...are very easily subverted by men with power.
The first thing I needed to wrestle with and overcome, was the idea that as their mother, I'm the only one with the magic wand for raising my kids. No bueno.
We've seen it happen a million times over. -
A woman kills herself raising her children all on her own, then sometime in the future Daddy returns, and is embraced with open arms. Yes your kids 'might' love you more, but you're the one with the broken body and mind, after carrying a load that should have been split.
Nigerian feminists, know that you're doing something right. These people wouldn't be investing so much time and energy into discrediting you if you had no impact.
Keep doing you. Dem boiz is scared.
No. Nigerian feminists are not 'misandrists'. Words have meanings.
There is nothing wrong with Nigerian feminism.
We know what feminism is about. We have to live in one of the most misogynist countries in the world.
Nigerian feminists are fighting for women everywhere.
That women who want to stand up for themselves need to clarify that "I'm not a feminist but..." tells you they've been successful in tainting it.
Of course the patriarchy will push back. You're demanding a system that benefits some people be dismantled. Of cos they hate it.
Because I'm always in a lot of pain because of Fibromyalgia, sleeping/dreaming is an escape for me. I travel, fly without care. Vivid dreams are also a side effect.
But so is memory loss. I'm in a race against my brain...
Parts of my memories are vanishing completely. So I paint to remember the beautiful things I see in my dreams, before my brain destroys it.
Phew.
Okay, here it is! Dream With Me.
Welcome to my world!❤