1. Hello and welcome! It’s episode 326 of #MrMrsBetterHalf. Mr. & Mrs Better Half is designed to strengthen marriages & relationships that will lead to marriage, with wisdom from God's Word. Mr and Mrs BetterHalf Relationship Series
2. Today I’m answering an interesting question from a single guy: “I keep asking ladies out but they never agree. Why do I keep getting nailed?” I think it’s a great question. #MrMrsBetterHalf
3. If you have failed repeatedly at a certain task it is important to take a step back and evaluate your actions. What could you be doing wrong or what should you do differently? #MrMrsBetterHalf
4. To do the same thing repeatedly and expect a different result is a definition of insanity. Sometimes persistence alone won’t cut it- especially when you persist in doing the wrong thing. Wisdom is profitable! So get wisdom and try again. #MrMrsBetterHalf
5. Now by ‘asking out’ I presume that you approach ladies with a view to proposing to initiate an exclusive romantic relationship with them that will lead to marriage. #MrMrsBetterHalf
6. I’m taking for granted that at the very least you are not strangers to each other. It is one thing for a stranger to walk up to you and try to start a conversation and another for him to instantly declare that he wants to date you. #MrMrsBetterHalf
7. Strangers proposing relationships instantly are usually only caught up in chemistry. You should actually know a lady at least a little bit before taking the plunge to request a relationship with her. #MrMrsBetterHalf
8. What is her full name? What does she do for a living or if she’s a student, what is she studying? Who are her friends? These are not deep questions but they are enough to form a basis for genuine interest in wanting to know her. #MrMrsBetterHalf
9. Now concerning getting nailed, I’ll now highlight 5 things you should pay attention to when stepping up to a lady you are interested in. #MrMrsBetterHalf
10. (a) Your approach. (b) Your communication (c) Your preparedness (d) The company you keep (e) Your appearance. Note that you might score high on some points but low on others. Your mission is to raise your low points and try again. Let’s look at each point. #MrMrsBetterHalf
11. (a) Approach. Typically, decent ladies don’t like unserious people coming to ask them out. Approach a lady with respect. Greet her politely. Don’t objectify her. Don’t whistle at her or undress her with your eyes. #MrMrsBetterHalf
12. A decent lady wants to know that beyond her body, you are interested in who she really is- her mind, her interests, her dreams etc. Don't drool over her or you’ll come off as a clown. Be composed and respectful. After all, this could be your future wife. #MrMrsBetterHalf
13. This is a good place to point out that you must have focus. What are you looking for in a mate? Some guys ask out every available girl that they meet. Not only does it reek of desperation, but it also makes you a laughing stock. #MrMrsBetterHalf
14. Word gets around- don’t be that guy that is so desperate, he will date anything in a skirt! Take special care in knowing what you want and then go after a lady who is like that. She in turn will feel special because you chose her out of many. #MrMrsBetterHalf
15. Don’t approach her with pride- like you’re doing her a favour. A guy with a chip on his shoulder will come off as proud and insecure. This is not the time to be boastful and arrogant. Be humble and respectful. This leads me to the next point. #MrMrsBetterHalf
16. (b) Communication. Some people think the best way to sweep a lady off her feet is to bamboozle her with your self-importance. That’s when the name-dropping starts and when you boast of your bank account and the places you’ve been to. #MrMrsBetterHalf
17. If you rely on your car, house, wealth or connections to win a lady those are the things that you will have to use to sustain your relationship. A good woman doesn’t need you to inflate your importance- be yourself. #MrMrsBetterHalf
18. At the same time, please don’t approach a lady like she will be doing you a favour. You are not to be pitied. You have value. Don’t be proud but by all means, have self-esteem and confidence. #MrMrsBetterHalf
19. Start the conversation naturally. Talk about the things you admire about her and state why you would like to know her exclusively. That it would be an honour to deepen your friendship. Tell her what she also stands to gain. #MrMrsBetterHalf
20. I'll stop here for today, and continue next week with the other things you should pay attention to when stepping up to a lady you are interested in. #MrMrsBetterHalf
21. I hope this has been helpful. I will be back next week with a new question to answer. Feel free to ask your questions- yours might be the next one I pick to treat here on. #MrMrsBetterHalf

• • •

Missing some Tweet in this thread? You can try to force a refresh

Keep Current with Godman Akinlabi

Godman Akinlabi Profile picture

Stay in touch and get notified when new unrolls are available from this author!

Read all threads

This Thread may be Removed Anytime!


Twitter may remove this content at anytime! Save it as PDF for later use!

Try unrolling a thread yourself!

how to unroll video
  1. Follow @ThreadReaderApp to mention us!

  2. From a Twitter thread mention us with a keyword "unroll"
@threadreaderapp unroll

Practice here first or read more on our help page!

More from @PGeeman

5 Feb
.1 Ask the right questions! If you want to rent a house or buy a used car, then you would know that the way to making the best decision is asking the right questions.
What type of questions are you asking this
season? And who are you asking those
2. The wisdom you need might
already be in the heart of a person close
to you; you can draw it out when you ask
the right person the right questions.
Get the right people around you and let
them speak wisdom into your life.
3. Listen to the Word of God and allow the
counsel of the Holy Spirit. When you get
the right kind of counsel, you have a
better chance of achieving your goals.
Read 4 tweets
4 Feb
1. Have you ever made a decision based on
the emotions you felt in one moment, and
regretted it afterwards? You may have
ruined a relationship for things you said in
anger. If so, you can relate somewhat to
Esau in the moment that he sold his
birthright for a bowl of stew.
2. Distractions, challenges and heartache may shake your belief, impair your judgement or even cause you not to recognize blessings. Do not make wrong choices based on your emotions or even worse make no decisions at all.
3. Decide to manage your emotions better,
delay gratification, and refuse to be driven
by the negative emotions around you.
Decide to trust firmly in the Lord and
make Spirit-led decisions.
Read 6 tweets
29 Jan
1. Hello and welcome. It's episode 325 of your favourite relationship series #MrMrsBetterHalf. Mr and Mrs BetterHalf is designed to strengthen relationships and marriages with wisdom from God's word. relationship blog
2. This week’s episode situation is: ‘I'm married, but in love with someone else. What should I do?’ #MrMrsBetterHalf
3. It is not clear whether your feelings are one-sided or are reciprocated. Regardless of the situation, you are at the very least in an emotional affair and in a dangerous place. Hopefully, you have not physically acted on those emotions. #MrMrsBetterHalf
Read 36 tweets
29 Jan
1. Managing your season of not enough!
In the past year, you might have
experienced a lot of hardship and you may
have tagged it your "not enough” season.
Guess what? Even Jesus had His "not
enough” season.
2. Just as Jesus had need for food, you may need a job, spouse, money, etc., and the devil has no new tricks. He tempted Jesus to focus on his needs alone by commanding stone to become bread.
3. In managing your season of “not enough"; you need to walk the path that Jesus walked in - focus on God and His word. Are you desperate for God or a solution? Many people are too focused on the solution they are looking for to understand the One who gives the solution.
Read 6 tweets
28 Jan
1. Rehoboth! In all of God's promises in the scriptures, He never promised that your journey here on earth would be smooth or trouble-free. At some point in your life, you might find yourself in a situation where it seems like there is so much hostility towards you.
2. How would you handle such situations as a Christian? Sometimes, God allows seemingly unpleasant situations to build your character & skills needed for where
you're headed.
3. Give favour expression by being at peace with all men this year just like Isaac did until he got to Rehoboth.
Read 6 tweets
27 Jan
1. Living on God's terms.
God told Isaac in today's passage that it is
time for him to live according to God's
own terms. Of course, the human nature in
Isaac might have caused him to doubt a
bit, just like you and I.
2. However, Isaac chose to trust God completely and live on God's terms. Living on God's terms requires living in God's ordained location, doing God's work, etc.
3. Pondering on the story of Isaac, you will notice that location was very important to fulfilling God's ordained destiny for him. In these times, there is a tendency to become restless.
Read 7 tweets

Did Thread Reader help you today?

Support us! We are indie developers!

This site is made by just two indie developers on a laptop doing marketing, support and development! Read more about the story.

Become a Premium Member ($3/month or $30/year) and get exclusive features!

Become Premium

Too expensive? Make a small donation by buying us coffee ($5) or help with server cost ($10)

Donate via Paypal Become our Patreon

Thank you for your support!

Follow Us on Twitter!