Thread by @GbengaWemimo

She had always known her husband was susceptible to negative influence
She was 18 when she met him
He was 24
She was an undergraduate at the University of Lagos
He was a post-graduate student
They met at a friend's birthday party
He came after her with everything he had
She liked

him and was convinced his attention was for real
He wanted to marry her immediately
She would have married him gladly but for a conversation, she had with her parents on a Saturday morning in which she stylishly asked them what they think of her getting married and her mother

said she must not talk about marriage until she was at least 21
So she told him what her parents said
He was disappointed
She assured him that courting for two or three years was not out of place
He agreed reluctantly that day but it was the beginning of six months of hell
The

first thing she noticed after the day she told him they had to wait was an emotional detachment
When he was asking her out, he asked if she jogged every morning
He wanted to know her route so that he could join her
She told him she wanted to but found it difficult to wake up

early in the morning
He told her he would be her alarm and he promptly began to call her every morning by 5am like clockwork
Because she didn't want her parent to suspect she was already dating she had to keep the analog phone from waking up the whole house, so she woke up early

She would dress up and join him down the street by 5:30 AM
They would jog for 45 minutes and part ways until they met later on campus
But the day after she told him they had to wait, he stopped calling
Emotionally, his action tore her to pieces
She was sure he had broken up with

her
She dressed up and jogged down the street
He wasn't waiting for her
She went to check him at his hostel later that day
He was around but he said he was busy
The standoff lasted a week
She had cried her eyes out
Eventually, she went to his hostel early one morning determined

not to leave until she saw him
She hung around the main entrance from about 7AM
He emerged at about 9am looking so unruffled, so calm She couldn't even tear his eyes out as she had imagined
She just fell on her knees weeping like a baby
He rushed towards her and held her
He said

he was sorry
He said he loved and missed her too
He said his friends told him he should stop running after her like a chick to a hen
Since she wasn't mature enough to stand up to her parents, he should teach her the consequence of saying No to him
He said he really wanted to be

with her but he had to steel himself against it so that his friends won't see him as a wimp
She couldn't make sense of it
Why would anyone deliberately choose to be sad when he or she had the option of being happy
Why would the opinion of his friends matter so much that she had

pay for it with tears and sorrow
He was the love of her life
She couldn't even walk away if she wanted to
But she had learned a vital truth about him
He would inconvenience himself to earn the respect of his friends even if it hurt her in the process
From that day, she began to

tacitly discourage him from having domineering friends who could influence him negatively
As soon as she clocked 21, they got married
She also graduated that same year
He had gotten a job with an engineering firm while she worked with an oil company
They were both from comfortabl

backgrounds and had many things in common
They wanted children but somehow they couldn't have any
It was emotionally draining for her
The medical reports say they were both fine, they did everything instructed by the specialists
They changed their diets, altered the time they

made love and did a lot of praying
He stood with and by her
He was unwavering
Eventually, God answered their prayers and she took in
Two months after she took in, one of his old friends who had traveled to the UK for about 10 years returned to the country to start his own firm

The friend had a bright idea but he couldn't pull it off by himself
He needed a partner and convinced her husband to resign his job and join him
Her husband did and the business venture was an instant success but her husband's partner was a skirt chaser who used women for fun

Whenever her husband discussed stuff from the office with her and mentioned how ladies of all body types and looks flocked to the office to service his partner, she would cringe
Her husband never spoke of it in admiration or approval
He condemned it but she knew her husband very

well
She knew he could be persuaded off his faithful ways
He had more money than he can spend and since she had her baby, he had dedicated more time to work than God
(He used to be the one driving her to monthly camp meetings and prayer meetings when they were parents in waiting)

but Jeshurun had gotten fat and forgotten God
The challenge was the business
It was so successful that she couldn't convince her husband to walk away from it but at the same time she knew his proximity to Mr. Randy will make him randy too in the long run
She tried talking to him

She beefed up her wardrobe and tried her best to look her best always so that his eyes would be on her only
She knew it was a battle and she was determined to win
Many ladies know the truth, that deep down if they turn their screw on a man he would cave regardless of his marital

status
But they will turn the screw anyway and dare him to say NO.
If he falls for their antics, he was the one that fell and it was no fault of theirs (despite the fact that they opened their legs willingly and in some cases even seduced him)
She did everything within her power

to keep him from straying
She was successful for only two years
Suddenly he began to travel frequently to London for business meetings
The journeys were too frequent for comfort
She cloned his phone and found out he was already cheating on her
It was inevitable but it was hurtful

She didn't know what to do
She confronted him
He denied it
She presented her evidence
He walked out of the house and moved in with his mistress
He said she went too far by cloning his phone
His engineering firm was into some highly classified deals with the government and what

she could be classified as sabotage especially if the tech people who cloned his phone for her kept some of the files or knew the value of some of the documents
She tried to explain that she did what she did out of love but it seemed like he had been looking for an excuse to walk

away from the marriage and she had handed him one
She waited a month for him to come to his senses
When he didn't she reached out to members of his family and explained what has happened
A meeting was called and he categorically said to everybody that he was no longer interested

in the marriage because he had fallen out of love with her and feels she lacked a life purpose other than obsessing about him
He talked about the cloned phone and how it pointed to mental derangement
He said she didn't have a life and he was tired of her
He tore her to pieces

His family members took his side
her family members took hers
Everybody agreed they should part ways for a while and reconsider because there was so much animosity in the two of them
She didn't play her cards well too
She went all emotional and started cursing him
It didn't help

case
She was 40, saddled with two teenagers when the marriage died
He agreed to spend some days at home because of the children
He told her she was free to divorce him
He told her he didn't want anything to do with her other than the fact that she was the mother of his children

she found herself calling his business partner (The bad influence) to help her talk to him
She was desperate
She was in tatters
She agreed to his terms
She was still very much in love with him and couldn't see herself as a single parent or with another man
She resorted to prayers

the heart of a king is in God's hand and she resolved to persuade God to stir her husband's heart back to her
She became a wife in name only
A figure head
He was essentially separated from her and enjoying his life with another woman who was unperturbed about building a nest of

joy on another woman's pain.
After a year of fasting and praying without any result
She decided to commit suicide and take her children with her
The idea one afternoon while she was in the kitchen
She felt it was best to kill her two children and then kill herself just to make a

statement
The next day she began to plan how to execute it
She went to a friend's church and met the brother in Jeans and T-shirt
They talked and prayed together
When she got home, she realized the urge to do it was gone
She waited for a week, the urge came back
She bought

everything she felt she needed to execute her plan but by the time she got home, the idea lost speed
This happened three times before the urge was replaced by supernatural peace.
The brother in Jeans and T-shirt told her the Holy Spirit silenced the darkness in order to preserve

her and her children
He said "The day we spoke, when i got home and was discussing with my brother, the Holy Spirit said to us that the devil will try to take advantage of your emotional vulnerability so I started praying for you every day for that terrible storm to blow over"

PS: When we are broken, everything loses colour
Life's fragrance is lost upon the dying
Everything goes dim and hope dies
Without the Holy Spirit, we find ourselves plunging into the darkness
Perfect love must be sought through the Holy Spirit and can only be kept by being in HIM

As we celebrate Valentine day soon, let us remember that love is a volatile emotion outside of God.
The same overwhelming power it owns, that drives it to make us bubble with life can be the same overwhelming power that will drive us into despair. Without God, love is treachrous

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