Ever since I can remember the one thing I have wanted was my own space- not even a car.
When you ask my sister what my dream home is, they will tell you -An estate.
But here I was sleeping on the floor everyday for the last 4 years!
I never share my personal life but I feel compelled to share even though my whole body is fighting it.
I started lolotalks 8 years ago with a webcam when I was in the university. This was during my 2nd degree..
But I want to zoom in on the last 4 years today.
I had wanted an office in my home - where I can work and create content.
I had a choice- Keep the bed or make the place an office. I chose the office.
I was broke- this was my daily reality.
I cleared the room and got a plastic table!! My God I was so happy!
My official office
After a few years I got money and used the old woods from the bed to make the wooden table and a bookshelf.
I couldn't even contain my joy!!
I didn't care that I was sleeping on the floor because I was executing what was required for me to be successful!
I had a system! I woke up 3am everyday to work till 5am ..did my exercise and slept for an hour then went out to work again till 8pm... Rinse and repeat!
I lived in contrasting realities everyday. They fly me to a 5 star hotel for work & I come back home to lay on the floor.
I can't tell you the mental energy it took me to see many realities, come back to mine and still maintain my self worth.
To refuse jobs that seem like the 'breakthrough ' bcos they didn't align with the vision.
Everyday, I was GRINDING SILENTLY & making the work speak for itself
I never shared and I never complained. I simply showed up, strategized and executed.
Even if there was no light, I didn't complain. I used a torch
There are many more stories to share of what happens behind success.
Till the day I left for Senegal, I slept on that floor and smiled when I saw my office desk and table
When you see me, I was often alone. I would take long walks to meditate or listen to podcasts.
I needed to protect my energy and spirit. I rarely shared my vision or goals, only projects and how it should be executed.
I took jobs that nobody was taking, I said the things people were scared to. I put myself in uncomfortable positions and pushed myself.
I have done a lot and many of the things never make it to be public sphere.
The accomplishments that many know are simply a byproduct of the blood, sweat and tears that went unnoticed.
This is my birthday month and I can tell you for the past 5 years, I have done nothing. No gifts, no cakes, no friends..no nothing. I was not moved. I was not angry or unhappy. On those days I was WOKRING.
I knew that I would gift myself what I desired the most
A personal gift not attached to work but a soothing relief for my soul.
Today I am in my apartment by the sea side with my bedroom and a separate office space.
I have an international job in a different country.
The price of sacrifice is delayed gratification.
I stepped out of the box and I did what needed to be done.
I have lived many lifes to get to this one.
I do not believe in 'age' - I look at life in phases and seasons.
What is this phase trying to teach me .. What wisdom can I get from the NOW.
How can I develop my character with the experiences of the NOW
My new apartment is the backdrop of my new phase. The phase where it is execution 2.0
Its not the estate yet but my 26th birthday gift seems appropriate for the NOW
I believed in my dreams and my vision.
I invested and bet on myself because I never waited for permission to unleash the beast in me.
At 3 months old, my family cut out of clitoral head (FGM1) because they didn't want me to grow up to be promiscuous.
This was never disclosed to me till I was an adult whilst I was educating my younger sisters about FGM and its implications.
Naturally, I am curious about my body and I teach about sex and pleasure- I noticed that I didnt have a clitoral head but never wanted to believe that it was due to FGM
I assumed I just didnt have a thick clitoral tissue even though direct stimulus to the clit hurts and I need to work around the clitoris to find the spot that external tissue where most of the pleasure nerves is located was cut.
7 Ways to Teach YOUR children Consent without mentioning SEX.
1.Teach Your Children To Say NO
Teaching kids to say no might seem like an insignificant gesture, but the impact goes a long way especially in African cultures where children are not encouraged to be assertive or disagree with an adult as its seen as disrespectful.
This kind of parenting condition children to accept anything an adults says or does as superior and correct, passing the message that their own opinions and decisions do not matter when talking to adults.
Uwa was raped & killed in Redeem church, which did nt acknowledge her death until public opinion forced them
If ur church-or any church-is more focused on protecting its name than protecting its congregants,why are u not enraged? What value does ur church place on u as a woman?
Women make up the majority of the congregation and church workers- offering themselves tirelessly year in year out.
The church is now a danger zone for women - so what actions are your churches putting in place to ensure women's safety?
When pastors are accused of violence and celebrated, bad behaviour in men enabled with scriptures and the silence of women exhorted.
I cannot overemphasize how much foreplay guarantees better sex! It makes sure that all parties are at their peak of arousal at the time of Sexual intercourse.
Been looking to get to that peak?
Keep reading and I will explain how to get one to their peak of arousal by knowing what type of arousal ignites a desire within them.
With men we know foreplay leads to an erection as blood flows to their penis; interestingly with women, the clitoris acts as the female penis. During foreplay, blood flows into the clitoris and the vagina gets lubricated.
@dayus4heaven Humanism and Feminism
These labels have become very loaded words in recent times - with people asking - can humanists be feminists? Are feminist fight for all rights of sexes? Is humanism a way to ridicule the feminist agenda?
@dayus4heaven Some see these labels as mere linguistic preferences but many seem to differ.
I like to believe that both feminism and humanism seek to achieve the same thing #BreakingBarriers