How do you respond when people wrong you? 😑

10 guidelines directly from Marcus Aurelius.

[Meditations 11]

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Concerning those that offend,

consider in the first place,

the relation you stand in towards men,

and that we are all made for each other.

Consider what sort of people they are at table, in bed, and so on.

Most of all, what sort of behaviour their opinions impose on them,

and their complacent pride in acting as they do.

If what they do is right, no cause for complaint.

If wrong, this is clearly out of ignorance and not their wish.

You yourself have many faults and are no different from them.

If you do refrain from some wrongs you still have the proclivity to them.

You are not even sure that they are doing wrong.

Many things are done as part of a larger plan,

and generally one needs to know a great deal before one can pronounce with certainty on another's actions.

When you are high in indignation and perhaps losing patience,

remember that human life is a mere fragment of time and shortly we are all in our graves.

It is not their actions which trouble us

-- because these lie in their own directing minds --

but our judgements of them.

And how to remove them?

By reflecting that no moral harm is caused you.

The greater grief comes from the consequent anger and pain,

rather than the original causes of our anger and pain.

Kindness is invincible -- if it is sincere, not fawning or pretence.

What can the most aggressive man do to you if you continue to be kind to him?

It is madness to expect bad men to do no wrong: that is asking for the impossible.

But it is cruel tyranny to allow them such behaviour to others while demanding that they do no wrong to you.

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