do people frequently interpret your words and actions in ways that are so diametrically opposed to who you are and your real intentions that it makes absolutely no fucking sense to you and you can’t figure out how those interpretations are even possible? #ActuallyAutistic
do you now or when you were younger did you assume everyone knew that social constructs aren’t truly real but just social agreements between people established to build a society around? have displays of devotion towards and faith in them ever felt confusing to you?
do you ever feel confused by and upset over the depth and prevalence of injustice in the world and have a hard time understanding how it’s possible given your own understanding of the human mind? do you feel that’s a failure of yours to be an adult, toughen up, or deal with it?
do you know on a deep level that you don’t fit in &/or often don’t know what to say but you attribute that to a difference in culture, religion, family life, trauma, education, shyness, anxiety, unusual interests or some defect of character? can you truly rationally justify that?
do you explain things people do that you find immoral & can’t understand with reasons you can rationally understand - lack of education, trauma, misunderstanding, etc - bc you think people generally try to do what they think is good & create harm unintentionally, not maliciously?
when you see someone - an average person, not a Mother Theresa figure - express passionate moral outrage about a topic that doesn’t affect them personally, do you think it is possible it’s genuine? or is it truly for personal benefit like attention/$/etc bc that’s human nature?
do you need to know not just what but why things are, and if people insist you accept things as facts of life without understanding why, you will think about it until you find what seems like the most logical explanation? do you agonize over it & frequently think it’s your fault?

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