The reason I guessed William and the sister-in-law, is bc I found that younger people felt like they could make comments like this casually. And play it off as half-joking, but be serious.
Plus older royals would have seen enough “quadroons” to know that was a dumb concern.
First thing my partner’s brother said to him when he found out we were dating is “Ooh. You have jungle fever.”
And this he was a friend of mine. Hell, his wife was my best friend. We had known each other since childhood.
Their cousin married a Black man and had a baby. We went to visit the newborn who was white-skinned. This made sense to me as most Black babies come out white and darken. She says to me, smiling:
“You could have a baby like this too! We calculated and she’s actually 70% white.”
Guys this was not an “ancestry.com” thing. She had come up with that percentage HERSELF.
I went home and told my mom and we had a good laugh abt how surprised she would be as that child inevitably darkens thru her first 2 yrs. But also we were concerned!
But Prince Charles is a good guess too. I hated going to their family functions because his uncles and older cousins would call me Keisha. (I think there was an actual Keisha that someone else had dated. Perhaps the only other Black woman they knew.)
And everyone would laugh.
And these people were poor af. I can’t imagine how rich - literally entitled - white people act.
I’m going to stop now before I get too upset. But yeah. I get it Meghan. God Bless you, girl.
One more thing.
His Aunt baked us a cake, it was half vanilla, half chocolate. She said it was bc she didn’t know which one I’d like (ask?!?) Anyway I took a vanilla piece and someone handed him chocolate.
Aunt 2: “Look he has the chocolate and Azie likes the white one!”
Oh wow. I’m crying now, unexpectedly. I used to tell these stories as jokes. But now I just don’t tell them.
People don’t know how traumatic this shit is. As @susanfaleshill once said to me “race warps our most intimate and fundamental relationships”.
How true that is.
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I’m going to tell a story here that I never have before. It cut me very deep.
So I was in a 7+ year relationship with a White man. Started in my very early 20s for context, and he was only the 2nd bf I’d ever had.
We had a mutual pool of friends. Really they were my HS best friend’s friend group, through her bf/fiancé who was my bf’s brother. I was the only one to go out-of-state for college, but I would come home a lot and hang with them. They were all white except me and one other guy.
So when me and, let’s call him Josh, start dating, we go to a party with this friend group. At one point a guy, let’s call him Mike, got me alone in a room, and said to me, “Tell the truth, you really want a Black dick...” He said it over and over trying to get me to “admit it”.
@JenSloan212@skwithycombe Yeah this is the part that I had a problem with. The rest seemed like it was more about significant differences in cultural norms and values of Western individualism vs collectivism and how it translates in childrearing.
@JenSloan212@skwithycombe The author was problematic af. Which is unfortunate bc much of what she observed was accurate from my childhood w Black/Indigenous grandparents as primary caretakers.
This is why it’s important for *us* to write about our cultures *ourselves*. The white supremacist lens distorts
@JenSloan212@skwithycombe It interesting bc I grew up w the opposite stereotype than is discussed in this thread. Black and Natuvr mothers were considered unable to parent well, more likely to spank or “beat”, have bad tempers, neglectful, etc.
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When you purchase beadwork from me you are giving to Black and Native communities. I give direct cash payments to people in need. Most of the time, anonymously.
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It took @GovDunleavy THREE WEEKS to declare a state of emergency. Well, actually the community declared it themselves. But he still has NOT SENT ANY HELP.
He apparently believes that hauling ice from the river, polluted by nearby gold mining btw, and boiling it is 👌🏾
Of course when the small town of Haines, AK had heavy rainfall that led to landslides this time last year, the Coast Guard was immediately sent with aide. Haines is 80% white, 10% Native.
The people of Haines have sent supplies to help Tulukvak. @GovDunleavy has not.