I really tried not to tweet anything about this, but being dismissive of the online harassment women face is so wrong & dangerous.
First of all, online harassment isn't just "mean tweets" - it's pile-ons, rape and death threats, doxxing, and more.
I've had to leave my home with a baby in tow because I wasn't sure if someone was going to come to my house and kill me.
Online harassment means spending money you don't really have to hire companies to scrub the internet of all your personal info and having conversations with your kid's school & teachers about the threats directed at them, too.
Online harassment means being on edge *all the time* - in your work online and in real life. I had a panic attack once because someone walked too quickly in my direction at a public event.
Online harassment also means losing out on future journalists from marginalized groups because they see the shit other people put up with and decide it's an industry not worth pursuing.
And when someone calls women complainers for talking about harassment's real life impact, it doesn't just diminish our pain & experiences - it makes allowances for future harassment.
Go ahead and tell that woman she's a cunt if you want to, it's not *real* persecution!
Anyway, this is a conversation we've been having for over a decade and if you're still in the 'if-you-can't-take-the-heat' camp you are either incredibly ignorant, downright cruel or both
In any case, Taylor's thread here has some great info & resources. Grateful to her and all the other women who put their mental and physical health on the line for their work
I am so glad women are speaking out - not just about workplace sexual harassment, but the everyday gross behavior men subject us to nytimes.com/2021/03/01/nyr…
I also had multiple unpaid internships, double majored and worked 20 hours a week. When I went to grad school I finished a two year program in one year to save money - and did it, once again, while working.
It was fucking awful and I hope no one ever has to do the same.
None of this made me smarter, more grateful or more hard-working than anyone else. It just made life harder.
Success isn't being the most tired and broke at the end of the day.
Someone asked me a question about parenting today at my newsletter and I answered something similar: people want you to believe that you're only a good mom if you're suffering.
It's a bullshit mindset meant to keep you in your place
Most medically eligible folks I know who got the vaccine in NYC were only asked to sign a self-attestation, not show medical records.
This is absolutely the right move to ensure that the most marginalized communities get vaccinated.
Yes, people will skip the line & that sucks - but if you don't have access to regular medical care, you can't get records or a letter from your doctor.
The system already privileges those with access to the internet, enough time to hit refresh ten times an hour and the ability to travel far from home to get the vaccine - this is the least the state/city could do.
Re: the latest 'cancel culture' kerfuffle at the NYT: If your concern is the chilling effect on people who want to say the n-word rather than the students who may be put off journalism entirely after hearing a top reporter use a slur... your priorities are very clear
This is what always happens when powerful white men are held to account - the empathy is centered on them rather than the many, many other people who were hurt by their actions
That's why during #MeToo, we kept hearing about men's "ruined lives" rather than the the dashed careers of the women who left jobs or industries because of harassment