oh hey it's time to talk about why so many clothes look bad on all of us again and sizing and all that jazz
So maybe you've been sitting here wondering why even people on TV who DON'T have Ideal American Body Types manage to look better than you do, even in t-shirts and jeans, and you've been beating yourself up about why your body is "wrong"
Can I just say, as someone who's definitely demi and probably ace, all the "if you wouldn't date/shtup a [fill in the demographic] person, you're [fill in the bigotry]-ist/-phobic" is kind of exhausting?
Like, on my days with more emotional bandwidth, I'm like, eh, they're not talking about aspec people, whatever, doesn't apply to me, don't care.
But also it's just baffling to me that "willing to have sex with" is suddenly the metric for absence of prejudice.
like I dunno, there are a lot of things, for me, that show greater vulnerability and trust than sex, and the constant centeredness of it as a marker of acceptance is alienating and exhausting.
It's really depressing to be approaching my second birthday in quarantine.
And yes, I get that missing birthdays are hard for everyone, but I think it's really hard for people with March/April birthdays since we hadn't figured out how to do celebrations apart at that point; it was just chaos.
Like we were talking at our zoom Purim celebration a few weeks ago about how Purim last year was the first event we canceled. And like, we didn't move it online or anything--we just straight-up canceled it.
I get that "Jews should welcome ex-Nazis into synagogues because REHABILITATION" is just an abstract, hypothetical way to win rhetorical points for some of y'all, but actual alive human beings have their lives actually at stake.
Like, do you understand that we have to celebrate our holidays under armed guard? That rabbis are advised to have panic buttons on the bimah? That the FBI and other law enforcement agencies frequently contact synagogues to warn them about neo-Nazi threats?
Oh, btw, the security updates the government recommends to synagogues (security systems, cement posts to prevent people from driving vehicles into the building, etc.) often have a pricetag of $100,000 and up?
I've been seeing a lot of "well, we don't KNOW that the Pharisees = early rabbis so it's okay to let them be Literary Villains in the NT" and well, sorry, but we kind of do. (thread)
Part of the confusion is probably from the facts that
A) we don't know exactly HOW the term Pharisee was used
B) it was a term that was largely applied to people by others, rather than what they called themselves
so, as far as A) we don't know exactly HOW the term "Pharisee" was used:
what I mean by that is that we know that this was a religious/political (because they're not separate for Second-Temple Judaism) school of thought that opposed the Sadducees and Romans
I've been thinking a lot, in the wake of the Luke Crane thing, about the harm the lack of any real process for both making amends and for reintegrating someone who's fucked up back into the community is doing.
Like, to be clear, I don't *personally* give a shit if any shitty white man in games fucks off into the sunset and we never see or hear from him again.
However, I also recognize that that's my emotions talking, and not my understanding of how communities work. Because a lot of those shitty white men haven't been shitty to *everyone,* and may have given people who aren't shitty white men opportunities.