Everyone is asking what men can do. #NotAllMen #TooManyMen #YesAllWomen Men could hold silent vigils, could demand their peers change, could challenge sexism from peers (and in their own attitudes/values). Men could try to unlearn what society has shamefully taught them since
childhood, which is that women are special & different, that sex is a conquest, that control of women is a way to move up the patriarchal pecking order, that sex is something men want & women choose to give or withhold until they are persuaded or forced otherwise, that women are
objects to be looked at, that displays or language of violence & toughness are manly & are a universal way to impress other men, that women (often women of a certain race & class at least – White, middle class) need looking after & protecting yet at the same time what all women
fear is you. Men could listen more to women (though I think really, they know). On a larger scale, men could REMOVE THEIR PATRIARCHAL POUND from the institutions that patronise them & oppress women. Men could stop buying sexist, objectifying, racist tabloids & urge peers to do
the same. Men could stop consuming other men’s rape fantasies in mainstream pornography industry & too often, their homemade films of actual rapes, child rapes, set ups where women were filmed/images shared without their consent. Men could set up progressive CR or consciousness
raising groups, like women did 40 years ago, to move forward honestly in conditions of patriarchy & support each other to blame something other than feminism for their discontent (which is justified & affects most men because just because men are in power, does not mean all men..
or that all men feel powerful, far from it). Men could stop paying for sexual access to women & young men in the industry of prostitution. Men in power could promote women at work. Men in senior positions could give women payrises at work. Men in power could bring in better...
parental leave for employees & encourage men to take it. Men could ask each other how they are juggling parenting. Rich men could fund women’s refuges & Rape Crisis services as well as women’s centres, playgrounds & playgroups (given the current reality of the unequal division..
of domestic labour & child rearing). Men in power could expect fathers to be doing their share of juggling & facilitate them & all parents so this isn’t such an accepted struggle. Men could refuse to buy products that sexually objectify women in their advertising (tbf that’s a..
difficult one as that’s nearly all products – men should contact brands & say it’s not what they want). Men could refuse business parties or nights out at strip clubs/lap dancing clubs & urge others to do the same. Men who are in the police could stop using their powers to be...
even more racist & sexist than they already are, or resign. Men in power in media could stop peddling sexist racist crap. Men in elite positions could resign & promote a woman in their place. Rich men could turn down work & give it to women instead. Men at the top of mainstream..
institutions of power could bring in a living wage for all their employees & cap high wages so they aren’t obscenely higher than their lowest paid workers as this would be a feminist act. Privileged men in business could make their leadership representative of the people they...
take money from in wider society. Men in parliament could support women & minorities better, or at all, so that these institutions of power look a bit more like the world they have the audacity to dare to lead.
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