How many women watch, listen, hear the way Mike Hosking, Barry Soper et al talk about women & absorb the overwhelming silence from their colleagues as implicit acceptance?

I know I do. I see the voices of men defending Mike Hosking preferenced over the voices calling him out.
I see the points that women are making about consistent toxicity, about disdain and condescension being ignored in favour of “but she just can’t hack it.”

It’s always “you should have to endure our behaviour” - never “our behaviour has to change.”

It’s always who speaks louder.
Guys, especially men in the media, if you’re wondering why there’s a fair amount of rage today, in the last week we’ve been told women are very important but also please don’t leave your house at night or have any opinions.
Definitely do not be a woman with any kind of power.
That rage is not going away.

It’s getting louder by the day & to be honest, it would be ideal if those who are busy defending misogyny & toxicity in the name of “good journalism” could please get out of the way.

Because talking over us doesn’t make what we say any less true./

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11 Mar
It’s weird that a male presenter can call a woman a “a shallow, self-absorbed, attention-seeking, woke, bandwagon-riding hussy” but if a man said that in the workplace he’d be fired.
It’s weird that these men can write & speak about women like this on a national platform.
It’s weird that brands who conceivably sell to women are okay with it.
It’s weird that other men in media who have women as their audience are all fine their colleague talks like this.
It’s weird that the media workplace culture means women in media have to hear it - & let it go.
It’s really weird that this level of consistent, demonstrable, clear toxicity is actively encouraged.
That the people who read the articles and say “great, go to print” are the same people who report on other kinds of toxic harm regularly, who see the impact of misogyny, racism.
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10 Mar
Just because some of the men in the media do not think their own misogyny exists, does not mean it doesn’t come through clearly in the way they write.

Discomfort with their words & approach is not unusual & the proclaiming that it’s “just normal” is a bad take - it is toxic.
Men saying that the toxic behaviour of other dudes is normal & fine is a trope I’d like not to continue in 2021, yet here we are.

Challenging is good; disdain, condescension & toxicity isn’t challenging - it’s Piers Morgan.

It serves no one to have misogyny as a game plan.
See Mihi, Ali, Kim, Lisa, Susie & others.
Compare the interview style, compare the words said, words written - these are results without backing down, without resorting to the kind of descriptions in Soper’s article.
It’s not a different approach - it’s a way of viewing women.
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6 Nov 20
I want to talk about this, today.

It’s really been bothering me & I’m going to try to articulate why.

I think what it comes down to, ultimately, is the ripple effect.

I think, what it comes down to is tangible, real harm.
Once you start to platform fascism as normal life, it’s really hard to go back.

It’s like any kind of hate (or love) - once you platform it, it takes on a life of its own - and, crucially where hate is concerned, *it validates the position & makes it mainstream.*

Hate is easy.
Psychiatrist Elisabeth Kübler-Ross is quoted as saying that there are essentially only two human emotions, love and fear.

Hate is driven by fear. So when editors choose to allow columns of this nature to proceed, at a base level it’s reinforcing the fear.

It normalises it.
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6 Nov 20
My neighbours are absolutely rip-roaring drunk and also letting off fireworks. What could possibly go wrong.
Someone just screamed “F*CK!” at the top of their lungs and alas I cannot tell if it’s alcohol-related or burn related.
Maybe both 🤔
Now they are shrieking over something. No loud bangs but lots of “oh my god!” from one bloke.

Assume it’s sparklers.

Actually, I really hope it is sparklers & no one’s getting it on in the driveway.
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3 Oct 20
We really need to talk about David Seymour.

I worry we don’t take all the things to be concerned about seriously.

I’m going to try to pull it all into one thread because sure as hell we’ll need to start referencing this if we choose to hand him power that he should not have.
(There are a couple of content warnings through this for threats of violence and transphobia but just saying it upfront as well.)
Reasons to worry:
Bad policy that disproportionately affects the most vulnerable New Zealanders, and doesn’t appear to recognise the vast demonstrable impacts of widening income inequality.👇
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2 Oct 20
Want a reminder on the process for voting?
This was my experience today:
1.) Find your nearest voting place on the list (map currently has high volume) vote.nz/voting/ways-yo…
2.)Take easy voting card, pen & mask
3.) Take photo for your social 👇
4.) Line up (social distance)
5.) Sign in using the Covid Tracer App
6.) Take easy voting card to an official who will hand you referendum/election papers
(If you forget your easy voting card, they will sort you and get you voting - this happened to someone in front of me and took three minutes to solve.)
7.) Go to voting booth
8.) Vote
9.) Put voting papers in the appropriate box
10.) Use hand sanitiser on the way out
Optional extra.) Give self a high five

That’s it. Thanks to everyone voting between now and the 17th of October. 🙌🙌🙌

More info:
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