Thread by @FunkButcher

Of course it’s always “Happy Mother’s Day”....But this day, this year, after the week we’ve had feels so disingenuous it’s unreal.

I can definitely understand now how Mothers Day would have been devised by men to atone for their behaviour the rest of the year. There’s duality in parenting which means the experience of a mother is directly related to that of the father. So a mother is VALUED by collaboration.

Male ego makes us believe that the recognition we give to women/mothers on this day is enough to mend the wounds. Fathers feel that can only provide that level of respect if there’s emotional investment. So it’s for butthurt men about the return.

Men or fathers demanding recognition or forgiveness not understanding the scoresheet going into half-time is probably 25-1 is part of the problem. We expect to do less work for triple recognition.

Life is tough for a man. But for women is really rough because we remove agency

Most of lockdown mums have been captains of the ships. Running homeschooling, I never forget at ASDA during first lockdown last year a mum brought her newborn to the store to get groceries and she nearly got knocked over. I was angry but stupidly at her for endangering herself...

But it’s mad the level of treatment women will get in public and no one stopped. I felt embarrassed for not looking directly at the men involved in the mistreatment. But then I think what are other mothers dealing with who have no support network?!

What we’ll do is!!... ignore their plight by saying things like, but women can kill men too, think of men’s mental health, women don’t need us.... then go with our dusty mout and tell our mothers and the mothers of our children how valuable they are. 🤡

Think I would tolerate racist micro aggressions and then be friends on October for month?

Got to be consistent. If this doesn’t apply to you as a man. You don’t need to let me know. I get the full complex nature of a relationship with a woman and yet still know what I DO.

I think I said before that a lot of heterosexual men HATE women but by the simple fact they may not define themselves as homosexual they can’t see it. Basically that’s their ONLY investment.

Friendship/kinship is respect.

Why you sending me things about what men are capable of like I’m not a man? I’ve got experiential data till the cows come home.
Still arrive at the same conclusion. That believing my trauma should then DICTATE my treatment of women is dangerous and then means broken stays broken

I come on this app to learn. About myself. To understand beyond my own network and community what works what doesnt. To have understanding is to be understood.

Men should be able at our big ages to identify the difficulty of our lives and how that has absolutely nothing to do with advocating for safety for women and managing behaviour in our men.

A mother is and was once only defined as a woman, to attach value to that woman now today because she has a link to a man but all week. We literally have watched men set precedents for every bit of disrespect to women under the media spotlight this week. Piers, the police....

Self Awareness as a man is the first part. The next part is the Change.

It’s comparatively easier to notice you have put weight on in the mirror than it is to exercise & diet to lose the weight you’ve identified.

Even self-aware men got work to do and that’s repetitive.