Thread by @Jarushub

How to Miss a Networking Opportunity

A friend shared this piece by W. Johnson.  As a big advocate of networking, I can relate to it. I have found myself with embarrassing retort of “Bros, these your questions sef” in the process of striking networking conversations with people.

They never know that such conversations may make a difference in their (or my) career/business in the future. If na female, don’t even go there, they will think you’re toasting them and may even ignore you.

Although I’m not unaware that most Naija men do not have “networking” in mind when striking a chat with opposite gender. Lol

Anyway, enjoy this from Johnson

Returning home recently from a consulting engagement in Tampa, I found myself stranded, late at night, in the Washington Dulles airport. The small regional airline I was counting on for a puddle jump never came through. Eventually, the airline loaded all 9 passengers into a van

and shuttled us the two hours to Shenandoah Regional airport.
One of my fellow travelers was a student at a local university. Upon discovering that we lived fewer than three miles apart, he asked me for a ride for the final leg home. I happily agreed.

During our 45 minute drive, I learned a lot about him: his name, where he grew up, where he goes to school, his major, what his parents do for a living, his own career aspirations when he graduates in a few months. We even discovered that we have an acquaintance in common.

With the same 45 minute opportunity, he didn’t ask me a single question, not even my name.
I’ll confess I felt a little invisible—and exasperated. I find it easy to ask people about themselves. I genuinely enjoy doing it. It’s one of my strengths,

and we’re often exasperated with people who aren’t likewise adept at the things that we do well.
But here’s the real take-away from this chance encounter: this young man is looking for a job when he graduates in a month.

His parents are concerned that he doesn’t have employment lined up for the rapidly approaching day when he commences from his education, a several hundred thousand dollar investment. I could have potentially helped him, if he’d just shown a little of the moxie that

would have motivated me to recommend him

The client I’d been with in Tampa is the CEO of a real estate construction & development company, the exact industry this young man wants to enter. I could have called, and said, “I just met this terrific guy; why don’t you speak to him?”

Would the CEO have given him a job? Not necessarily.

Contrast this experience with the son of one of my childhood friends, Alexander. He struck up a conversation with a gentleman on an Amtrak train, stayed in touch, and is now going to work for him this summer.

But if we’re too comfortable with our place in the world, it’s easy to believe that the way things are is the only way they should be. We battle this mindset as we open up our network, especially to people who are unlike us, and ask questions, solicit opinions, and entertain new

possibilities rather than focusing inward.
Real relationships, in biz as in life, are based on reciprocity. Our real advantages, both concrete and less tangible, are gained through humility, through putting ourselves in one-down relationships with those who know more than we do.

We really do know less than we think we do; open up, and we will learn more.

If we’ll extend ourselves in this way, the research suggests we are 2x more likely to enjoy breakthrough ideas.