Ask yourself if you really want to be someone’s friend or do you want to be in proximity to them because of status, resources, knowledge etc.
When you idealize a person, you can put yourself in a vulnerable position to be used by them.
Over-glorification of someone in a “friendship” destroys the dynamic of mutual trust & acceptance.
They may fall from the height you put them on, but you’ll also be crushed by the debris.
A lot things can skew friendship dynamics, and it’s usually caused by one party having something that the other desires, like money, fame, clout etc. Because being their friend means access to these unattainable spaces.
It’s fake and it puts you at risk for abuse.
And if you’re the person that has what the other wants, you are also at risk for being taken advantage of.
Love easily becomes hate. The person that was your biggest fan can become your worst enemy.
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There’s someone out there that thinks they’re lazy when they just have undiagnosed ADHD.
I think about this person a lot, because I was this person.
The abuse you tolerate from others because there are things that are difficult for you, leads you to a life where you think there’s something wrong with you.
Your brain works differently. And that’s okay.
People with ADHD have a deficit in activation (which is the opposite of procrastination). It’s *extremely* difficult to get tasks started.
To someone who doesn’t have ADHD it seems like laziness or being unproductive. But what is productivity anyway?
In Ifa, menstruation is not considered dirty or unclean. It’s actually seen as something very energetically potent.
There are many Odus (Odus refer to the cosmic algorithm of the universe) like Iwori Ogbe, Iwori Osa, etc that speak about menstruation being a sign of blessings.
Particularly ire omo (blessing of child).
That being said, those who menstruate are running energetically hot against hot spirits. The menstruation cycle (and the blood itself) can be powerful enough to render medicines and Ifa shrines impotent and unworkable.
The Ifa & Orisa tradition is a journey of loving yourself first. Depending on yourself first. Learning to hold yourself accountable first.
If you’re in the tradition and you are the same person that you were going into it, investigate that.
Before all the orisa, akose (spiritual medicine), and ebo (sacrifice)—all you have is yourself (your ori) and your character (iwa pele).
It’s self-action before devotion.
When it comes to devotion, it’s devoting your life to what resonates to what works with your ori (higher self). It’s doing things that align with your elevated self, that align with the destiny that you chose to live.
Codependency on the Ifa Divination System or Orisa is not it.
You’re not gonna be able to pray away cognitive disorders or choose to not believe them.
A loved one could be silently suffering without the access to get help & the support. It will benefit the entire community to advocate for everybody in it.
Here in this thread, I have time again to talk about the 3 types of ADHD. And how emotional regulation and rejection sensitivity are one of many defining components you could probably recognize in an ADHD person