During my undergraduate days, I had one dominant mentality that helped me a lot. The mentality that at the end of the day, we do not matter so much. It usually made me come off as over zealous but I’d never have had it any other way.
I did as much as I could. I would write endless articles and post on several group chats. I’d grab any opportunity to be part of something. When there were no competitions, I would organize face-offs with other schools and participate. I wrote my scripts.
The mentality was always that even if people like what I do or think that I’m over-zealous, none of these opinions last. I’m not so important. Besides opinions change. Today you’re cool, tomorrow you’re probably doing too much. Eventually, people face themselves and let you be.
And I have always believed that people who eventually form our close circles, are the people who let us be. They don’t have to be interested in or really love what you do but they’ll love and respect how you put your energy to do your thing. For yourself.
People get tired and bored. Even the most impressive things you do will gradually seem tacky and irritating. It is simply impossible to make people care too much about anything that doesn’t serve them and it’s the way we’re all wired. There’s too much to life. So, serve you.
Nobody cares. Not as much as you think. It’s literally the language of life telling us, “go ahead, shape and live your life on your own terms”. Just don’t be stupid enough to ruin yourself because it works both ways. Nobody will care too much too.
Like death, the fact that in the grand scheme of things, none of us matter too much, is such an immeasurable gift. Some days it will be scary but most days, it is this mentality that helps us live life on our terms, focusing on the things that truly matter most to you.

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