Thread by @RealTalkFadzie

Some of the most common things that make relationships fail

Women :
#1 Lack of respect
Men value respect and if they feel like you are don't respect them they will likely lose interest in you no matter how beautiful, educated and attractive you are.

Being respectful as a woman means knowing how to talk to your partner, knowing when to talk , listening to your man, appreciating his efforts & correcting him without making him feel like less than a man, not abusing your man verbally with hash words

#2 Unrealistic expectations
We all have some level of expectations and we all should. However, your expectations should be in line with what you can actually reciprocate into the life of another. Expecting what you can't bring to the table is selfish.

#3 Allowing Friends Run Your Life
Allowing ur clique of friends to dictate which man u meet is worthy of your love and which is not will ruin your relationships. You are the one who is going to be to be with this man, not your friends, so do not allow them to control who u date.

Your friends don't need to know everything that is going on in your relationship, don’t discuss private & intimate details with them, it's really not necessary. Also be careful about the people whom you call friends & the way they influence you.

#4 Poor choice in men
Don't just date every Tom, Dick & Harry who have nothing meaningful to add to your life (ps I'm not talking about material things) who will just use & leave you. There are plenty of good men who have good principles , morals values who are hard working

with a lot of potential who can love u & make u happy. If u date bad boys u will eventually end up single lonely, bitter singin the man are trash anthem. PS Stop playing the role of a wife to a man who has no desire & intention of marrying u are only wasting your time & energy.

#5 Not bringing any value Into relationships
As a woman you need to think & work towards equipping yourself so that you can be an asset & also add value to your man's life to show him that you are worth committing to.

You can add value to his life isn’t by giving ur man good counsel, helpin him attain his goals in life, givin him moral, mental & spiritual support. Don't be a liability that only bring requests & problems to be solved. Don't be a liability who is only good at making demands.

#6 Toxic Feminism & negative
Some African ladies now dislike the idea of gender roles because they have been brainwashed by movies, bitter women who hate men & marriage and excessive exposure to modern media that promotes gender-equality in a destructive way.

Men & women are different those gender roles are there to maintain good long lasting relationships, ensure men & women's needs and wants are fulfilled thus making everyone happy, they are not to suppress anyone. Those gender roles compliment different strengths men & women have.

Ps Bad influence from from women who have failed in their own relationships & marriages and those who toxic feminists will ruin your relationships.

#7 Having too many sexual partners
Some women think sexual liberations and living your best life is about losing your principles, morals & sleeping with everyone. You cannot have a good stable relationship if you can't be sexually faithful.

If you are used to having many sexual partners it will become difficult to settle with just one person also you might end up comparing that person with your previous partners hence you might end up not being satisfied with one man.

#8 Comparing your relationship with other peoples'
Love shouldn’t be a competition between u & ur friends or sisters or cousins Every relationship is unique, it has it’s fair share of ups & downs hence there is no need to want to have e best relationship lovewise or financially.

content with your partner, be content with yourself in that relationship, nurture it,water it, prune it the best way that suits the two of you. Make the best out of your relationship ❤️

Ps this thread is a summary from last week's discussion & some research some of the material is borrowed material from other sources, l will also do a thread on men.