This is a wonderful graphic for those of us studying or leading organizational change efforts, & if you haven't heard of John Kotter and his work, check it out.
"People often try to transform organizations by undertaking only steps 5, 6, & 7, especially if it appears that a single decision will produce most of the needed change. Or they race through steps without ever finishing the job.
Or they fail to reinforce earlier stages as they move on, & as a result the sense of urgency dissipates or the guiding coalition breaks up. Truth is, when you neglect any of the warm-up, or defrosting activities, (1-4) you rarely establish a solid enough base on which to proceed.
And without the follow-though that takes place in step 8, you never get to the finish line and make the changes stick"--John Kotter, Successful Change and the Force that Drives It.
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Happy Sunday! This week, I shared a single tweet on my own experience with internalized misogyny, & then I got told to 'watch my tone or I might make all women look bad" by a bonefide women's hero.
So, let/s have a Coffee & Culture🧵on Daniella's journey w/ internalized misogyny
It all started when I was raised in a religious cult, the Children of God, run by a man who believed that women should serve men. He called us 'Bible women' or 'David's Handmaids' & we were essentially trained from birth to, quite literally, serve men w/ our lives, & our bodies.
The idea that anyone, but especially a girl, could choose what she wanted to be when she grew up was laughable. We were walking uteruses & sources of free labor for men & the cult. My mother started having babies at age 14, & continued till she was 27, an example of God's will.
Got a question the other day: "I'm confused about white, male privilege--I'm trying to be more aware, but I have 3, white boys who I can't raise not to be white men. What do I do?"
Let's chat a little, & I'll share some resources that worked for me.
Welcome to Coffee & Culture
What is privilege, white or otherwise? To paraphrase @IjeomaOluo, privilege is something that you were born with, didn't (can't have) worked for, that gives you advantage, favor or immunity not enjoyed by other groups of humans that are not in your demographic.
Privilege comes in many flavors: whiteness, maleness, able-bodiedness, intelligence, attractiveness, & generational wealth are a few. A big problem to understanding is that people get stuck on inherited wealth--thinking that if they weren't born rich, they can't have privilege.
Hi everyone (& my new followers), thanks for stopping by for Coffee & Culture #10. ☕️☕️☕️
Today, we'll be talking about bunnies, chocolate, & the power of getting out of your comfort zone & changing up your perspective.
The Easter Bunny Conundrum: Changing Perspective
In the pre-COVID days, I was in an airport lounge with my husband, sipping bubbly, snacking and trying to relax prior to what was sure to be a stressful trip.
Part of the stress would come from managing our overly tired 3-yr-old, who at that moment was laying full out on the ground under the table, with her feet up in the air, singing loudly in Portuguese (one of her three languages), & generally being a little out of control.
Okay, so, if you didn't watch the video, suffice it to say, there's a trick to Minesweeper that most people do not seem to know.
I know this because I figured it out while isolated in a religious cult (yes, I had access to a computer so I could learn to be a secretary).
The trick is that if you click both mouse buttons on any square, it will show you which squares can be bombs. If you do that on a square where all possible bombs have already been marked, then it will automatically expand more squares. If you don't get it, video 👆
One night, after my husband had a very close call, & the other guy didn't make it, I woke up with this poem forcing me to write it down. Didn't do anything with it, (cuz it's not good) but it still makes me feel stuff.
"Oh, you're just an Army Wife",
is this gonna be my life?
Is this meant to be all I am,
someone who just understands?
I’m only there to be decorative,
without the chance to really live.
Mission first, they always say,
you’re just there to love and pray.
We’ll call you when it all goes wrong,
when we need someone to bury our son.
Happy Sunday, all. Welcome back to Coffee & Culture #8.
We're gonna have a 🧵 about the term "Loyalty", how we use it individually, how we use it organizationally, & how it becomes problematic fast. And cults, of course, y'all know me.
"When Loyalty & Obedience go too far"
2/ First, like any good English major or social scientist, let's define our term:
Loyalty: the quality or state or an instance of being loyal.
"LOYALTY implies a faithfulness that is steadfast in the face of any temptation to renounce, desert, or betray."