Tweet

More from @daniellamyoung

Daniella Mestyanek Young🇺🇸 🇧🇷🇲🇽

@daniellamyoung

2 May

Welcome to Coffee & Culture. Today, I'll tell you a war story.
In this story, men & women are together in combat, deliberately, for one of the first times, & we have to negotiate our roles in a job that nobody prepared us for.

The Only Woman on the Sand 🧵

The noise of two giant Army helicopters taking off is deafening. The silence, after you & 25 of your closest colleagues have jumped off the back and they’ve taken off, leaving you alone and stranded just outside an Afghan village, is sobering.

As the dust from the rotorwash settles, I look around, squinting against the harsh glare of the desert sun. I can make out the village hundreds of meters in front of us, & I can see the narrow path that we will have to cross to get from the open desert into the center of town.

Read 32 tweets

Daniella Mestyanek Young🇺🇸 🇧🇷🇲🇽

@daniellamyoung

25 Apr

Happy Sunday! This week, I shared a single tweet on my own experience with internalized misogyny, & then I got told to 'watch my tone or I might make all women look bad" by a bonefide women's hero.
So, let/s have a Coffee & Culture🧵on Daniella's journey w/ internalized misogyny

It all started when I was raised in a religious cult, the Children of God, run by a man who believed that women should serve men. He called us 'Bible women' or 'David's Handmaids' & we were essentially trained from birth to, quite literally, serve men w/ our lives, & our bodies.

The idea that anyone, but especially a girl, could choose what she wanted to be when she grew up was laughable. We were walking uteruses & sources of free labor for men & the cult. My mother started having babies at age 14, & continued till she was 27, an example of God's will.

Read 35 tweets

Daniella Mestyanek Young🇺🇸 🇧🇷🇲🇽

@daniellamyoung

22 Apr

This is a wonderful graphic for those of us studying or leading organizational change efforts, & if you haven't heard of John Kotter and his work, check it out.

"People often try to transform organizations by undertaking only steps 5, 6, & 7, especially if it appears that a single decision will produce most of the needed change. Or they race through steps without ever finishing the job.

Or they fail to reinforce earlier stages as they move on, & as a result the sense of urgency dissipates or the guiding coalition breaks up. Truth is, when you neglect any of the warm-up, or defrosting activities, (1-4) you rarely establish a solid enough base on which to proceed.

Read 4 tweets

Daniella Mestyanek Young🇺🇸 🇧🇷🇲🇽

@daniellamyoung

11 Apr

Got a question the other day: "I'm confused about white, male privilege--I'm trying to be more aware, but I have 3, white boys who I can't raise not to be white men. What do I do?"

Let's chat a little, & I'll share some resources that worked for me.

Welcome to Coffee & Culture

@IjeomaOluo

What is privilege, white or otherwise? To paraphrase @IjeomaOluo, privilege is something that you were born with, didn't (can't have) worked for, that gives you advantage, favor or immunity not enjoyed by other groups of humans that are not in your demographic.

Privilege comes in many flavors: whiteness, maleness, able-bodiedness, intelligence, attractiveness, & generational wealth are a few. A big problem to understanding is that people get stuck on inherited wealth--thinking that if they weren't born rich, they can't have privilege.

Read 25 tweets

Daniella Mestyanek Young🇺🇸 🇧🇷🇲🇽

@daniellamyoung

4 Apr

Hi everyone (& my new followers), thanks for stopping by for Coffee & Culture #10. ☕️☕️☕️

Today, we'll be talking about bunnies, chocolate, & the power of getting out of your comfort zone & changing up your perspective.

The Easter Bunny Conundrum: Changing Perspective

In the pre-COVID days, I was in an airport lounge with my husband, sipping bubbly, snacking and trying to relax prior to what was sure to be a stressful trip.

Part of the stress would come from managing our overly tired 3-yr-old, who at that moment was laying full out on the ground under the table, with her feet up in the air, singing loudly in Portuguese (one of her three languages), & generally being a little out of control.

Read 22 tweets

Daniella Mestyanek Young🇺🇸 🇧🇷🇲🇽

@daniellamyoung

28 Mar

Thanks for stopping by for Coffee and Culture, Episode 9. Today, we are talking about privilege, but also the game Minesweeper.

How are those things related, you ask?

A Thread 🧵

(Please see this link for the 'trick' of how to play Minesweeper: drive.google.com/file/d/1AI2Eoz…)

Okay, so, if you didn't watch the video, suffice it to say, there's a trick to Minesweeper that most people do not seem to know.

I know this because I figured it out while isolated in a religious cult (yes, I had access to a computer so I could learn to be a secretary).

The trick is that if you click both mouse buttons on any square, it will show you which squares can be bombs. If you do that on a square where all possible bombs have already been marked, then it will automatically expand more squares. If you don't get it, video 👆

Read 29 tweets

Share this page!

Daniella Mestyanek Young🇺🇸 🇧🇷🇲🇽

Try unrolling a thread yourself!

More from @daniellamyoung

Daniella Mestyanek Young🇺🇸 🇧🇷🇲🇽

Daniella Mestyanek Young🇺🇸 🇧🇷🇲🇽

Daniella Mestyanek Young🇺🇸 🇧🇷🇲🇽

Daniella Mestyanek Young🇺🇸 🇧🇷🇲🇽

Daniella Mestyanek Young🇺🇸 🇧🇷🇲🇽

Daniella Mestyanek Young🇺🇸 🇧🇷🇲🇽

Did Thread Reader help you today?

Like this author's thread?