Thread by @MusingsOfYouth

The best part about quotes like these is not their truth value, but how they're weaponized against those in our community--overwhelmingly men--who find it difficult to get laid. "What your virginity says about you is that you lack empathy, you're probably an awful person."

https://twitter.com/readlux/status/1387882341289406468

It's obviously true that sex is, in part, a sort of "empathy" in the sense that you & someone else share each other's feelings & act in unison to pique them. It's cliche, but it truly is hard to comprehend what this entails if you've never done it. But that's not why it's said.

It’s said b/c it responsibilizes the individual for the systemic social problem.

Guy: "Why is it so hard for me to find an SO?"
Classy Sexpert: "Clearly no one wants to have sex w/ you b/c they can sense your lack of empathy."

See? It’s all your fault. Now stay out of our way.

Ironically, the Sexpert's perfect empathic capacity allows them to intuit the true level of sensitivity this guy has, and it's apparently zero. "I'm an empath!" she says as she totally ignores the soul-crushing effect her words have on a desperate someone looking for help.

That's why the empathy is "the best part". You can't dare enjoy being brought to climax by your spouse or SO without moralizing it, lest your empathetic mastery be nothing more than getting off--you're no longer morally superior to the married churchgoers down the road.

In formula-izing their social interactions under a particular ideology--allowing them to feel consistent w/ their public life LARP--they're unable to enjoy them. They've negatively moralized their desires, and in turn everyone else's, and need external validation to pursue them.

"I want to have sex with you because you're beautiful/handsome and I love you and want to make you feel what I feel for you" is inconceivable. They believe you aren't just born with the ability to love, that you have to learn how to access it.

This is a true rejection of one's own capacity for love, the saddest thing in the world. They spread a dark, downtrodden gospel: you have to learn how to *feel* love, *feel* the need to respect and cherish, from someone else's textbook.

They think this about themselves, too.

That's why they see struggling men as subhuman. They think that if these men haven't learned how to access love now, they never will, meaning they'll never experience full humanity. They'll never be human. Worse, they had the chance--should've just listened--it's their fault.

The reason ppl are suspicious of “subcultures” that “pursue erotica” is b/c these A) aren’t subcultural, they’re in your school and B) ppl clearly w/o erotica are trying to strip normal life of eroticism & restructure it according to a mysterious ideology.

https://twitter.com/readlux/status/1387887315452825606?s=20