It's really hard to read pieces like this when there is no mention of the main reason women find work/mothering so stressful: male partners who don't do their fair share…
Of course part-time work should be more available (to moms AND dads) - but the reason so many moms find a work/life balance so impossible is because it's something their husbands don't fucking think about ever
You can absolutely have a job and be a parent without feeling burnt out. And we know that's true because MEN DO IT ALL THE TIME

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8 Apr
This is unconscionable
The only point of a piece like this is to blame the victim and engage in tired racist tropes that paint Black children as dangerous and older than they actually are.
I mean this literally: What other reason is there to publish this piece?
Read 5 tweets
31 Mar
Can't wait for the next few weeks of Very Serious Discourse about how it's fine for middle-aged men to fuck 17 year olds
When I was 17, I broke up with a 21 year-old because the age gap felt too stark. 🙃
If you'd feel embarrassed to go to prom, you shouldn't be dating 17 year-olds
Read 4 tweets
17 Mar
Let's be clear, and I'm sure others have said it: What happened here was racist misogynist terrorism…
In the coming days we're going to read about how the shooter was a lone wolf, or that he always seemed like a nice guy. People will say that it was a random act of violence. That's all horseshit.

This was predictable and preventable.
When people talk about racist & misogynist violence like this, the implication is that it can't be stopped. It absolutely can.

But we need to gun violence, sexism, and - especially right now - anti-Asian racism more seriously.
Read 4 tweets
9 Mar
I really tried not to tweet anything about this, but being dismissive of the online harassment women face is so wrong & dangerous.
First of all, online harassment isn't just "mean tweets" - it's pile-ons, rape and death threats, doxxing, and more.

I've had to leave my home with a baby in tow because I wasn't sure if someone was going to come to my house and kill me.
Online harassment means spending money you don't really have to hire companies to scrub the internet of all your personal info and having conversations with your kid's school & teachers about the threats directed at them, too.
Read 8 tweets
2 Mar
I am so glad women are speaking out - not just about workplace sexual harassment, but the everyday gross behavior men subject us to…
I wrote this about Biden in 2019, but clearly the point applies here too…
I feel certain that this latest story will invite all sorts of "oh I can't even *hug* women now???" reactions and the answer is: No, you can't.

Stop fucking touching us.
Read 4 tweets
1 Mar
I also had multiple unpaid internships, double majored and worked 20 hours a week. When I went to grad school I finished a two year program in one year to save money - and did it, once again, while working.

It was fucking awful and I hope no one ever has to do the same. Image
None of this made me smarter, more grateful or more hard-working than anyone else. It just made life harder.

Success isn't being the most tired and broke at the end of the day.
Someone asked me a question about parenting today at my newsletter and I answered something similar: people want you to believe that you're only a good mom if you're suffering.

It's a bullshit mindset meant to keep you in your place
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