In her opinion, he was too childish when they met
He was 28
She was 26
He was working with a publishing firm
She was a lawyer
He was extremely intelligent
She was intelligent
She knew he had potentials but he was content to play happy go lucky with his life
She was getting more
He was 28
She was 26
He was working with a publishing firm
She was a lawyer
He was extremely intelligent
She was intelligent
She knew he had potentials but he was content to play happy go lucky with his life
She was getting more
out of life at 22 than he was getting at 28
He was making a poor salary, most of his earnings were based on commissions and the job takes him all over the country like a vagabond
He was part of the team setting up the book fairs and exhibitions and school tours
For the pittiance
He was making a poor salary, most of his earnings were based on commissions and the job takes him all over the country like a vagabond
He was part of the team setting up the book fairs and exhibitions and school tours
For the pittiance
he was being paid, she felt he was doing way too much
She told him about it
He just laughed it off, like a child
She knew they were taking advantage of him
She was sure that with his skills and intelligence he could do better
Way better...but he didn't see what she was seeing
She told him about it
He just laughed it off, like a child
She knew they were taking advantage of him
She was sure that with his skills and intelligence he could do better
Way better...but he didn't see what she was seeing
All he wanted to do with her was take her to tourist sites, climb mountains and dive into caves
He liked being on the move, like a nomadic herdsman
She realized that was the reason he didn't quit the silly job he was doing
It was the thrill of the adventure, going to new places
He liked being on the move, like a nomadic herdsman
She realized that was the reason he didn't quit the silly job he was doing
It was the thrill of the adventure, going to new places
feeling like the proverbial Mr. Ajala that traveled all over the world
She wondered if he would ever grow up
If he would ever grow out of the puerile impetus to jump on the next moving thing and zoom off into unknown territories
Even when he was home, the moment they plan to see,
She wondered if he would ever grow up
If he would ever grow out of the puerile impetus to jump on the next moving thing and zoom off into unknown territories
Even when he was home, the moment they plan to see,
he was thinking of taking her somewhere
It was as if he would die if he stood still for a while
She met him at the bank
She was a marketer
He came to her to help him in setting up his company's bank account
He had registered the company and she felt he was quite ambitious
When
It was as if he would die if he stood still for a while
She met him at the bank
She was a marketer
He came to her to help him in setting up his company's bank account
He had registered the company and she felt he was quite ambitious
When
they were done with the account opening, they continued to engage each other socially until they became an item
She was the hard work but there was no money to show for it
He was able to pay his rent and he had some electronic gadgets but he had almost no savings
He took her to
She was the hard work but there was no money to show for it
He was able to pay his rent and he had some electronic gadgets but he had almost no savings
He took her to
his mother's 60th birthday
The occasion was a delight
Somehow during the party, his mother pulled her aside and said "If you want to marry him, you have to domesticate him.
He is adventurous and still sees himself as a bachelor,
if you can persuade him to see you as his future,
The occasion was a delight
Somehow during the party, his mother pulled her aside and said "If you want to marry him, you have to domesticate him.
He is adventurous and still sees himself as a bachelor,
if you can persuade him to see you as his future,
he will settle down"
The counsel was apt
It was a struggle she had been seeking expression for in her heart
He was barely around to relate with and they would say they were in a "relationship"
Communication was reduced to phone calls and text messages
When he was around and she
The counsel was apt
It was a struggle she had been seeking expression for in her heart
He was barely around to relate with and they would say they were in a "relationship"
Communication was reduced to phone calls and text messages
When he was around and she
got him to stay at home, he would always come up with one mischievous game or the other
They played Truth or Dare
They played "lose the game and lose your clothes"
They play a game and whoever loses takes off an item of clothing or quits (She always quitted after her first loss)
They played Truth or Dare
They played "lose the game and lose your clothes"
They play a game and whoever loses takes off an item of clothing or quits (She always quitted after her first loss)
They would play hide and seek
He loves to play that constant game where he would want to touch her and she would have to hold his hands while they negotiate a truce
He was jovial, playful, childish, and full of pranks
She once went to his flat and he stuffed her bag with rubber
He loves to play that constant game where he would want to touch her and she would have to hold his hands while they negotiate a truce
He was jovial, playful, childish, and full of pranks
She once went to his flat and he stuffed her bag with rubber
snakes
He was a delight to play teenager with but that was not what she was looking for at 26
She wanted to get married
She had completed her masters and landed a good job by the age of 24
The next thing on her agenda was "marriage"
He was the only man who had indicated some
He was a delight to play teenager with but that was not what she was looking for at 26
She wanted to get married
She had completed her masters and landed a good job by the age of 24
The next thing on her agenda was "marriage"
He was the only man who had indicated some
interest
He wanted to get married to her too but she couldn't marry him as he was at that time
A lot of things had to change
He used to tell her stories of his previous relationship
He had broken up with the lady but the lady had done a number on him in many ways
One of the stuff
He wanted to get married to her too but she couldn't marry him as he was at that time
A lot of things had to change
He used to tell her stories of his previous relationship
He had broken up with the lady but the lady had done a number on him in many ways
One of the stuff
he liked to do was tap her on the backside whenever they were climbing the stairs or whenever she walked past him while he was watching the TV
She liked it but she felt it was rude
They talked about such things in her office and men had to be trained to keep their hands to
She liked it but she felt it was rude
They talked about such things in her office and men had to be trained to keep their hands to
themselves
He told her it was just a bit of fun
She told him it was insensitive and stupid
He stopped it
She told him she was not interested in his fun games too
She told him to grow up
He resigned from his thankless job and got a better job working with a public relations firm
He told her it was just a bit of fun
She told him it was insensitive and stupid
He stopped it
She told him she was not interested in his fun games too
She told him to grow up
He resigned from his thankless job and got a better job working with a public relations firm
He scored so well in the diagonal thinking assessment test that three PR companies offered him a job
He studied Integrated Marketing System and adapted quite well
Within a year of meeting him, she had taken away all his toys, games, and adventures
He had become a proper adult
He
He studied Integrated Marketing System and adapted quite well
Within a year of meeting him, she had taken away all his toys, games, and adventures
He had become a proper adult
He
read newspapers and books and they watched movies together once in a while
He proposed and she said yes
They got married and settled down to family life
It was supposed to be a win but she found herself confronted by a gulf
Something was missing
Their relationship had somehow
He proposed and she said yes
They got married and settled down to family life
It was supposed to be a win but she found herself confronted by a gulf
Something was missing
Their relationship had somehow
evolved into more of a big sister and younger brother sort of thing
He deferred to her in everything and did as he was told
She saw it early and was seriously concerned
She had rubbished his way of life and threatened to leave him if he did not grow up or man up
He had begged
He deferred to her in everything and did as he was told
She saw it early and was seriously concerned
She had rubbished his way of life and threatened to leave him if he did not grow up or man up
He had begged
her and did everything she demanded of him
That was how the marriage happened
She was afraid she could undo the good she had done by encouraging him to become slightly playful and less serious with her
She felt their relationship lacked those little things that help a marriage
That was how the marriage happened
She was afraid she could undo the good she had done by encouraging him to become slightly playful and less serious with her
She felt their relationship lacked those little things that help a marriage
to blossom and thrive
She felt he would snap out of it, mellow down, reveal his true nature over time
It didn't happen
By the time the marriage was five years old, they were practically strangers
Two people who are in a marriage with nothing in common but their children and their
She felt he would snap out of it, mellow down, reveal his true nature over time
It didn't happen
By the time the marriage was five years old, they were practically strangers
Two people who are in a marriage with nothing in common but their children and their
rent
They talk but not as friends
He said whatever was needed and so did she
He provided and she supported
They made a lot of progress but everything was on the surface
His mother and siblings were all behind her, supporting her and loving her to bits
He loved her too his own way
They talk but not as friends
He said whatever was needed and so did she
He provided and she supported
They made a lot of progress but everything was on the surface
His mother and siblings were all behind her, supporting her and loving her to bits
He loved her too his own way
but there was nothing romantic between them
When their marriage clocked ten years, she felt they needed a fresh spark
She bought games and books and asked if they could start playing again
He just looked at her and shook his head like she had lost her mind
She tried talking to
When their marriage clocked ten years, she felt they needed a fresh spark
She bought games and books and asked if they could start playing again
He just looked at her and shook his head like she had lost her mind
She tried talking to
him, establishing a rapport
It didn't work out
He would return home from the office at 9pm every day
He would shower and go to bed
If she came into his room to share a word or two, he would nod his head and sleep
It was as if she does not exist in his heart
There would be no
It didn't work out
He would return home from the office at 9pm every day
He would shower and go to bed
If she came into his room to share a word or two, he would nod his head and sleep
It was as if she does not exist in his heart
There would be no
exchange of text and messages between them all-day
He wouldn't call or chat with her
On weekends when she tried to have some conversation with him, he would show little or no interest
It was not what she bargained for
Indifference was always worse than hate
She told him one day
He wouldn't call or chat with her
On weekends when she tried to have some conversation with him, he would show little or no interest
It was not what she bargained for
Indifference was always worse than hate
She told him one day
that she was not happy in the marriage
He looked at her and said "I don't understand. I have always done whatever you asked of me. I have given you everything you asked for. How are you not happy?"
He was technically right but they had drifted apart
How could he not see that?
He looked at her and said "I don't understand. I have always done whatever you asked of me. I have given you everything you asked for. How are you not happy?"
He was technically right but they had drifted apart
How could he not see that?
She said "I will like you to be yourself, you know, saying the things you want and being yourself around me
When I look at you now, I see a stranger that I helped create
You are no longer yourself
All the things I see here in this house are my idea
The TV, the fridge, the cars
When I look at you now, I see a stranger that I helped create
You are no longer yourself
All the things I see here in this house are my idea
The TV, the fridge, the cars
everything. It's like being lost in my own wonderland. I feel like I have married myself and I cannot find you in my world the way I should
Please forgive me if I have somehow dominated you and subdued you
It's just that, this marriage no longer feels like a marriage to me
I am
Please forgive me if I have somehow dominated you and subdued you
It's just that, this marriage no longer feels like a marriage to me
I am
sorry"
He didn't say anything
She was sure he didn't understand
Two months later, he resigned from his job
She asked him why
He said "He did the job to please her and saw no need to continue doing it since it no longer made her happy"
She was concerned but she held her peace
He didn't say anything
She was sure he didn't understand
Two months later, he resigned from his job
She asked him why
He said "He did the job to please her and saw no need to continue doing it since it no longer made her happy"
She was concerned but she held her peace
He started his tourism company
He had built a healthy network while he was with the Public Relations firm
He went into business with a beauty pageant company and things began to work out
He started traveling again
It made things even worse for their marriage
She never wanted an
He had built a healthy network while he was with the Public Relations firm
He went into business with a beauty pageant company and things began to work out
He started traveling again
It made things even worse for their marriage
She never wanted an
absentee husband
While he was doing the previous job, he was at home physically but there was no relationship between them
His new job meant he wouldn't be home physically
She said no
She wanted to build her home, not be a single mother
He told her she should have left him be
While he was doing the previous job, he was at home physically but there was no relationship between them
His new job meant he wouldn't be home physically
She said no
She wanted to build her home, not be a single mother
He told her she should have left him be
He felt they shouldn't have married each other
While in the marriage they were both miserable but he was coping because he felt he was making her and their daughter happy
When she told him she was not happy, he felt there was no point in keeping up the charade
That was it!
While in the marriage they were both miserable but he was coping because he felt he was making her and their daughter happy
When she told him she was not happy, he felt there was no point in keeping up the charade
That was it!
They got separated in 2016
They got divorced in 2018
She met the brother in Jeans and T-shirt in 2019 and told him her story
She told him she and her ex-husband were still good friends
The Brother in Jeans and T-shirt met the two of them and they discussed how things could work
They got divorced in 2018
She met the brother in Jeans and T-shirt in 2019 and told him her story
She told him she and her ex-husband were still good friends
The Brother in Jeans and T-shirt met the two of them and they discussed how things could work
He told them they were not so different
Her husband needed a friend
She needed a lover
They could both fulfill each other's heart desire
They began to meet every Sunday
They would talk, watch a movie, or play games with friends
She got to know him all over again
They remarried in
Her husband needed a friend
She needed a lover
They could both fulfill each other's heart desire
They began to meet every Sunday
They would talk, watch a movie, or play games with friends
She got to know him all over again
They remarried in
April, 2021
PS: Meeting Jesus and getting to know the Holy Spirit restored this home
The husband is living his dream and the wife is satisfied in her new home
You have to be willing to work on that union
Dont insist on having your way when you can shift ground
Let love reign
PS: Meeting Jesus and getting to know the Holy Spirit restored this home
The husband is living his dream and the wife is satisfied in her new home
You have to be willing to work on that union
Dont insist on having your way when you can shift ground
Let love reign
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Taming the Nomad - gswmi.com/read/domestica… By the time the marriage was five years
old, they were practically strangers
Two people who are in a marriage with
nothing in common but their child and
their rent
They talk but not as friends
He said whatever was needed and so
did she
old, they were practically strangers
Two people who are in a marriage with
nothing in common but their child and
their rent
They talk but not as friends
He said whatever was needed and so
did she
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