1/ On The Blindness of Privilege:
Pastor Paul Adefarasin of House on the Rock – a man whose net worth is estimated to be about $50 million (although he reportedly said a few years ago that he was a billionaire )- told his parishioners to make sure to have a plan B out of Naija
2/ because “these people are crazy.” His wife, he said, was busy sorting out their plan B. Ah! To be wealthy na good thing oo. Folks, the opposite of poverty isn’t wealth. It is access to a viable plan B. And the options that come with it.
3/ Friends, the opposite of poverty is privilege. And you know what they say about privilege being blind? If you have it and you don’t pay attention, you assume everyone else does and if they don’t, then it’s their fault.
4/ The cavalier manner in which Adefarasin threw out the advice of a plan B is evidence of his privilege-induced blindness.
5/ Also, one could say that for someone who (together with his pastor-wife, Ifeanyi ) preaches fervently & forcefully about faith & belief & against despairing, his comment seems both hypocritical and deeply marinated in despondency.
6/ It is either he has very little conviction in what he preaches or he thinks that the situation is so dire that hope is practically impossible. Neither option is a good look (?) for a man of the cloth.
7/ Adefarasin’s talk of checking out of Nigeria isn’t something that started today. The exodus has been ongoing for as long as I can remember. Those who are old enough to, may recollect the Andrew-I’m-checking-out ad. on TV in the 80s
8/ The pastor hasn’t said anything other Nigerians – especially those who can afford to- haven’t said. Even those who can’t afford it sef, dream of it. Just trawl through Naija Twitter.
9/ Folks want better lives, folks want access to all the things people in developed countries take for granted, they want security. Not everyone wants to stay and fix the country. But Adefarasin speaks from the pulpit. And not just metaphorically.
10/ His voice is a megaphone, and as a pastor he ought to be a professional optimist, a peddler of hope. He also, by virtue of his calling (vocation) ought to be a bit more sensitive . He ought to be aware that plan B isn’t within everyone’s reach.
11/ As folks say, check your privilege. Abi, Pastor Adefarasin hasn’t heard of people dying in their bid to reach Europe? Bodies dumped in the Sahara?
12/ According to a 2021 The Migrant Project report, there've been several reports of corpses, hundreds of them, found in the Sahara. Per the same report, "The number is likely to be higher, but nobody knows...Many migrants’ bodies become buried in sand and are never found."
13/There are various reasons for the deaths including heat and starvation, but sometimes people are murdered. The report quotes an eye witness who said that the car he and some other migrants, including two Nigerian women, were travelling in from Niger had a breakdown.
14/ When the driver asked all the passengers to alight and push the vehicle, the Nigerian women refused. “(They)said they were women and the sun was hot so they should be excused. The driver stabbed both of them to death.”
15/ A filmmaker friend of mine made a documentary years ago about Nigerian prostitutes deported from Italy. A couple said they travelled by road through Niger ( where they had to sleep with men for water and bathing soap) to Libya and then the hazardous trip by sea to Italy.
16/ This perilous journey was their plan B. They were lucky to make it alive. Adefarasin hasn’t heard of Nigerians being held as slaves in Libya? Or being tortured in Algeria? This is the reality of the exit plan he is very casual about for some of his fellow citizens.
17/ Adefarasin has a range of countries to choose from- US, Canada, UK ( where his church has a branch) , Germany (where his mother-in-law is from). He has an abundance of options.
18/ He could literally close his eyes and stick a pin anywhere on the map of the world and be able to relocate there. He can also work out of anywhere. He could hold his church services via Zoom . He needn’t even work at all should he choose not to. $50 million ? Dude is made.
19/ Unfortunately, his wealth and the power that comes with such stupendous wealth also seems to have disconnected him from the realities of the average citizen of the country he lives in.
20/ He does not understand what it is to be an ordinary Nigerian, stuck in a system that frustrates you but having no option other than to stick it out. Staying put and working where you can, to make a change ,if not out of patriotism , then out of a dearth of options.
21/ To leave or not to leave is Adefarasin’s prerogative. People have been migrating since time began.
22/ What is, in my opinion, very vital for him to do – &he has no choice in this since he is a pastor- is to cultivate the sense of empathy that would make him appear less haughty & less isolated from those that he tends. & to be guided by the question, What would Jesus do/say?
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1/ 3 weeks ago, I had a conversation with an overwhelmed new parent friend of mine. She said the baby cried a lot. My friend could catch no break. I asked for the baby's bedtime- baby had no bedtime. So, I shared parenting lessons (stuff tat worked for me with her)
2/ When we had #1, J was working full time, I was studying full time. My mom stayed with us from a few days to when #1 turned 3 months old. My mother-in-law told us from the beginning she could/would babysit BUT our baby had to have structure.
3/ bedtime was same time every day, whether he was at ours or his grandparents'. We put him down, drew the blinds, turned off the lights, left some music on. If he cried, we went in to see what was up, cuddle him ( without ever removing him from the room)
1/ In the late 90’s, my friend’s younger sister had an appendectomy at a hospital in either Nsukka or Enugu, I forget which. At some point during surgery, according to my friend, there was a power outage and the doctors wrapped up by flashlight.
2/ My friend’s sister survived and the story of her surgery by flashlight has become a dinner table anecdote. Some years ago, a woman I knew in Belgium returned to Nigeria to process the papers for her two children in Benin City to join her and her new husband in Europe.
3/ It was the beginning of summer. She had hoped to be done on time for the children to be in Belguim for the first day of school in September. On her last day in Nigeria, she was in a car accident and was heavily injured.
1/ This week, a video of five female students of Oreyo Senior Grammar School, Igbogbo Ikorodu, Lagos State, smoking shisha in what is presumably a private home went viral.
2/ In the video, the students are in school uniform, so they either sneaked out of school or they are day students who detoured after school to someone’s place for a hookah smoking session rather than return home.
3/ I read somewhere that the girls have been suspended. I've never been in favour of removing students from the classroom unless they are violent (and/or disruptive). Suspensions (and expulsions) are often not effective forms of punishment (a discussion for another day).
1/ So Jack of Twitter, carried his business to Ghana and the Giant of Africa is raking because how dare he leave Nigeria with all its resources; human and otherwise to go and land in Ghana where their jollof is rubbish?
2/ Thing is though, that no matter how many more Twitter users Naija has than Ghana (36 million, almost 4 million more than the entire population of Ghana) an argument I have heard more times than I care to count, Jack owes us nothing.
3/ He is free to set his headquarters wherever he thinks it makes good business or personal sense for him to do so. Maybe he just likes Ghana. Maybe he wants it in a place where he’s not having to invest in security details and power supply
‘The African Woman’ (For The ‘Real’ African Man) 1/ Never talk about African women as if they were individuals. Remember: they are a monolithic group. There is the African Woman of which there are two subgroups: the Bad African Woman (BAW) and the Good African Woman (GAW).
2/ Members of each group are easy to spot: The Bad African Woman is a feminist which means that she hates men and spends her days pretending to be happy and her nights crying in loneliness because she has put career before marriage.
3/ Note: it doesn’t matter whether she’s married or not, that’s beside the point. For her, always use adjectives like ‘bitter’, ‘frustrated’, ‘sad’.
1/If you have the heart for it, and you understand Igbo, you can watch/listen to the original interview here. It's heartbreaking : bbc.com/igbo/afirika-5…
2/ How is he justifying domestic violence, sexual assault? In the name of culture? Whose culture? And women should be flattered when they are sexually harassed?
3/ How can he, working in the industry that he does , with smart, intelligent women, acting in movies with such women , even directed by such women come out and say that women have small brains. And imply that they are less intelligent (than men?)