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An adult that has some amount of power in the space of education, be it schools, colleges, tutions or as PhD mentors, abuses it to assault their wards.
Kripali shared reports of a Karate Teacher coercing a kid into ‘consensual sex’ which is actually r*pe.
It is extremely tiresome when caste, religious identities, and whataboutery dances its ugly dance.
People who say what about Loyola when a case of child sexual abuse happens, ‘what about harassment in xyz religion?’ are taking the little space survivors have to get vindicated.
The FOCUS should be on survivors, providing a safe space for them to speak out and get justice.
Kids, women and LGBTQI across the board are subject to harassment by abusers across caste and religion. The chances of getting justice for ANYONE takes years in this system.
Please stop asking whatabout when a set of survivors have finally mustered the courage to speak up. Your chorus feeds into the conspiracy of silence.
Students from multiple schools are sharing stories.
The stories of a music teacher called Vasanth Peter are horrifying.
Parents of students are trying to hush up. Alumni want to hush up current students to protect the honour of the school. This looks like an attack on the teaching system while what we are talking about is violation of children’s bodies.
THIS you need to focus on.
What can you do?
If you are a parent and if you have NOT had a chat about sex education, consent and boundaries- do so immediately with your kids. If you have tendencies to shame survivors your children observed that and will NEVER think
You are a safe person to confide in.
Children and even grown adult women believe it must be something THEY did that they got ‘picked’ for abuse.
They blame themselves because that’s what this glorious society has been repeating.
Parents need to unlearn their biases.
If a child didn’t confide in a parent about someone violating their body - the parent needs to introspect and ask themselves why. Maybe they arent ready for the abusers one will find in their own families usually under a pious garb.
Teach your kids & yourself(!)about sex education.
Knowing your own body and its workings is not shameful.
Name body parts for what they are. No nicknames
No shame associated with genitalia.
Teach consent and boundaries.
If you dont know how, there are enough educators who do.
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Does your school have an Internal Complaints Commitee?
Is your school POCSO compliant?
Did you have awareness & sensitization sessions with all the teachers, support staff & management?
If so, when?
Who constitutes @SushilHariIRS your ICC unit? Who heads it?
Your school is also a Residential school it seems like.
Do you have a skill built committee in the school? A policy? If so, what is it?
The notice of an ICC / POSCO Unit with contact details must be publicly visible in your school visible to all students. Please prove publicly that it was done.
Were students given training about safe and unsafe touch and whom they were asked to report to? @SushilHariIRS
லீகலா போங்கன்னு கருத்து தெரிக்க விட்டுட்டு இருக்குற மக்களுகக்கு - NCW-ல கேஸ் பதிவு பண்ணி, அவங்க 3 Reminders குடுத்து, ஒரு லேடி Officer வீட்டுக்கு வந்து, எங்கிட்டயும், என் தாயார், என் கணவர், மூன்று பேர் கிட்டயும் கையழுத்துல கம்ப்ளைன்ட வாங்கிட்டு போயாச்சு. 1/
மேடை மேடையா ஏறி திரு ராதா ரவி அவர்கள் என்ன அவமானப்படுத்துனதும் அவசர அவசரமா விசாரணை பண்ணாம என்ன Ban பண்ணது, எதனாலன்னு எல்லாருக்கும் தெரியும். 2/
எனக்கு முன்னாடி இன்னொரு பெண் 'ராதா ரவி வீட்டுக்கு வந்து சந்திச்சா மட்டும்தான் டப்பிங் யூனியன் கார்டு தருவேன்னு சொல்றாரு’ ன்னு Facebookல பதிவு பண்ணுனதுக்கே அவங்கள ban பண்ணுனாரு. 3/
In Oct 2020, Joelgiftson shared screenshots from over 60 kids alleging misconduct by SamJaisunder & Reuben Clement of the Scripture Union.
The reason why Sam Jaisunder got suspended AND arrested was because ONE student, filed a complaint of what happened to her a few years ago
The misconduct had happened to her when she was a minor, but she filed as an adult and her complaint was taken following social media furore and some fantastic press support.
It is important to report to keep Child Sex Offenders AWAY from kids. newindianexpress.com/states/tamil-n…
When parents don't report fearing backlash and shaming - which is also true because society *is* messed up - such men easily move into the Private tution space where there'll be absolutely no governing body at all.
I spoke a lot about the MeToo Movement, my being banned, consent, flirting, boundaries on my spaces last time. Here are some misconceptions I saw people seemed to have
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Kindly share and read if this is going to come up again since I dont want to answer the same questions
1. The stories of workplace sexual harassment, which is what almost all of us women faced - the women are PERSONALLY KNOWN TO US.
They were ‘anonymous’ to YOU. Not to me or the women who put a LOT on the line when we shared other people’s experiences of sexual harassment.
2. Sexual harassment is about power. In MY case, in addition to physical molestation - It was also about political threatening, show of strength, threats of my phone being tapped with the help of ‘intelligence’. Threats of general safety.
I got a DM from a girl who said she had her sister have been abused by their father from the time they were 5 years old. The mother couldn't leave the father since she wasnt financially independent. Relatives too said child molester husband was more important than the kids.
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I don't think any of us understand how terrible this is for the child and the mother because she literally has no way out. Imagine not being able to sleep throughout your childhood because your own father is sexually abusing you.
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Why are Indian parents in such a freaking hurry to marry off their daughters and pay a ransom dowry? Why do they not check who they are marrying their daughters off to?