I am very tired of seeing the exclusion of autistic trans men in these conversations.
1. Autistic nonbinary people don't all grow up being perceived as girls. 2. Autistic trans men exist & should be allowed to talk about their experiences being perceived as a girl growing up 1/3
3. The idea that we should only include women and nonbinary people in the autism discourse is just really weird on so many levels. Some autistic cis men mask! Fun fact!
4. Just say marginalized genders if you want to talk about experiences outside of autistic cis men!
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5. Regardless of someone's gender (such as nonbinary people and trans men) they may still be perceived as a woman in society depending on what they look/sound like! (Yes even an autistic trans man!)
Stop slapping the "women and nonbinary" label on and calling it a day, everyone.
If you want to talk about autism and gender, there a few things to keep in mind:
1. Are you wanting to talk about experiences growing up specifically and the societal impacts of that? 2. Do you just want to talk about autistic masking in general, which can apply to anyone?
3. Are you trying to talk about "female autism" vs. "male autism"? (if so, take a step back and maybe educate yourself about societal expectations on autistic people) 4. Do you want to talk about marginalized genders and how they navigate society as autistic people?
Each of these questions has a different audience.
Make sure you know what the goal of your meeting or presentation is, and why you are including or excluding specific people from that group. Please don't leave people out when they need to be part of that specific conversation.
And one last thing:
Are you including nonbinary people because all nonbinary people have relevant experiences to give input on this,
or are you including nonbinary people because you assume that most of them were raised as girls, or worse, are "close enough" to woman?
And let me clarify here -
I am absolutely fine if an event excludes certain genders. That's not really the issue.
The issue is when a certain group of people have relevant experiences to a conversation and are not included in said group.
Answer key to above questions:
1 - include anyone who has been perceived as a girl/woman.
2 - include anyone who masks
3 - just don't have this goal
4 - include all marginalized genders
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I've had a thought I've been mulling over the last few days about parenting autistic kids and emotional regulation.
I'm not sure if I agree with myself yet, but here's my take at the moment -
Parents often place limits on their kid, just generally.
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This can include when the kid eats, when they go to bed, when they have to brush their teeth, when they have to do homework, when they can do activities they like, etc.
And yes, of course much of that is often necessary especially for young kids.
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Emotional regulation and figuring out what your body needs to be stable is hard for anybody, period.
Often for autistic people it can be harder for any number of reasons, many that I've gone into before on here.
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This thread/offer is for parents who have autistic kids with auditory sensitivity & have financial hardship,
to help buy acoustic foam/soundproofing for their room or space.
Please share -
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The ko-fi account I made had the specific goal to give acoustic foam to autistic kids and their families who need it.
Thanks to a generous donation recently, I can help 2-3 families with this currently.
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I plan on continuing to do this whenever I get donations to that account,
So if the autistic person in your family is really highly in need of soundproofing due to auditory sensitivity, such as conflicting access needs/noisy home and can't move locations,
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Tweeting this to save the article, but also because it could be helpful to any autistic people or anyone who wants to soundproof their room (obviously not everything applies if you want the most sound absorption and you're not a streamer).
Reminder: Changing surface-level terms, using "autistic people" instead of "person with autism," doesn't make up for perpetuating myths about autistic people.
"many experience some level of difficulty with social-cognitive mentalizing, also known as 'theory of mind'" 1/13
"..understanding the early course of social-cognitive neurodevelopment may afford the best opportunity to mitigate the profoundly negative effects that social-cognitive differences can have on some autistic people." 2/13 scientificamerican.com/article/autism…
I'm also not a fan of the framing of "let's learn about autistic people so we can figure out how social attention works because they don't have it!" as if we're some fun commodities to be studied.
Not to mention that neurotypical people are crap at reading autistic people.. 3/13
Reminder to anyone who thinks that autistic people just "have" to do X/Y/Z because the world is harsh and unwelcoming -
Accommodations in the workplace exist. "It's the world we live in" doesn't prevent us from trying to make a better one. Stop thinking this as a good reason.
Autistic people do not have to mask to make friends - we can make friends with other autistic people or neurodivergent people in general (and we often do). Be able to interact with others? Again, we can interact with other autistic people.
Asking autistic people to mask in order to get a job is essentially asking autistic people to mask for the rest of their lives while in that job.
Effectively you're saying I'd rather you have a job than have sound mental, emotional, and even physical health.