The worst pain for a survivor is the institutional betrayal - losing everyone, finding out the abuse might have been prevented or stopped, and that you are powerless to save others.
SBC Messengers, hear are some things you desperately need to hear:
Everything that Dr. Moore laid out in his letter was preventable - the abuse, mistreatment, bullying, intimidation, defamation of survivors - it was all preventable.
It was preventable because this type of behavior has been long-known and reported on. Survivors and advocates have been sounding the alarm on these exact dynamics for decades.
@ChristaBrown777 wrote an entire book on it. I've recommended it before, I recommend it again.
In fact, for years, @ChristaBrown777 ran a website tracking baptist abusers AND the SBC leaders covering up for them. I found it a decade ago while doing research to advocate on behalf of church survivors.
If you are shocked by the content of Dr. Moore's letter, I understand. But take this time now to find out the history.
Ask how these leaders could behave this way and KNOW they would not be stopped or caught. What gave them the confidence to act in that manner?
The answer is that they could speak that way, take those steps, retaliate and control, because history had long taught them that it was safe to do so. That no one would care enough to speak out, vote against them, or stop them.
These leaders could behave this way because history has taught them they can operate with impunity. That survivor and advocate voices would be quickly maligned as "angry", "bitter", "unreasonable", and by sidelining those voices, they could do as they pleased.
SBC's theology of autonomy and representative-based structure is intended to create a system with extra accountability - where power isn't concentrated in a few, but rather placed on the consciences of all. But. . .
That only works if Messengers are seeking out knowledge of what is taking place, and insisting on mechanisms of accountability and transparency.
Unless and until that happens, history will continue to repeat itself.
But it can be done better, if you so choose.
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When I was working on Jen Lyell's case, I repeatedly requested this step be taken and pointed out that in fact, Jen's case is NOT the only time the SBC EC has defamed or incorrectly reported a case of abuse. Rather, they could do this to Jen because they'd done it before (thread)
Notice in Dr. Moore's letter where he recalled a former SBC leader (still pastor) who resigned due to something involving sexual sin. That resignation was publicly reported as a "moral failure", but it wasn't an accurate report. Note Dr. Moore's question:
"I asked Ronnie Floyd if the EC ever planned to release information beyond the amorphously worded “moral failing” language at the time of his resignation, about whether this former president had abused spiritual and pastoral authority with the woman in question in this incident."
I drafted model language and standards and web content for the Credentialing Committee at the request of one person working for the EC who wanted this done well.
They would not speak to me, nor accept or seek help from anyone.
On the Caring Well curriculum team alone there were 2 attorneys, 1 clinical psychologist, the detective who oversaw the Nassar investigation, and multiple licensed counselors and social workers. None of us, no one, was asked to help draw up best standards investigation practices.
Repeatedly Cred. Comm. leaders told @SusanCodone they couldn't do anything because the policies limited them. Forgetting to add that THEY created the policies they blamed for their troubles, or that they could change them at any time, or that model guidelines were even provided.
Reminder: Lest we categorize how the scandal with Josh Duggar was handled in 2015, as a "Gothard problem", this is a reminder that one of the family's pastors was Ronnie Floyd of the SBC. He did an interview with People Magazine on Duggar's behalf. . .
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And his church released a statement. Key themes were that "everyone sins", there is forgiveness (no mention of what genuine repentance would look like) and that scandals have happened before and will happen again.
This is the same Ronnie Floyd who two years ago. . .
Became head of the SBC's Executive Committee (the group that makes all the decisions) shortly after their publishing arm (Baptist Press) defamed the highest ranking female SBC executive (who worked for Lifeway) by reporting her violent abuse as an affair. . .
I don’t even know where to begin with what we need to learn from this situation with Josh Duggar. If you haven’t paid attention to updates, you should, because it is a glaring example of the problems we have in our legal system, and especially in conservative culture.
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The images and videos Josh downloaded for his own sexual pleasure were of toddlers and babies being sexually assaulted. 18 months to 3 years old. He literally found sexual gratification in watching the sexual torture of babies and toddlers.
He was sexually aroused by toddlers and babies being painfully and violently abused. The FBI agent who conducted the investigation said it was some of the worst material he’s ever gone through. Josh searched for it, and enjoyed it. Sit with that reality. Absorb what that means.
"We are waiving attorney-client privilege during the investigation so that we can truly determine why Scott Shaw was allowed to abuse for 10 more years after 17 women reported him."
Attorneys were involved in that debacle. If you are serious about the truth, you have to waive.
"The investigation will culminate in a fully public report that details what went wrong, and why. It's critical that we understand why no one filed formal reports for 16 out of the 17 women who reported, and why no one was taken seriously."
Pastors and friends walking alongside, this is where you come in.
Here are some things you can do. Without this kind of help, it's almost impossible to leave, much less heal and get a halfway decent custody arrangement...
First, be the voice that tells the truth. Survivors' sense of normalcy is so distorted, and their trust in their own judgment and abilities so decimated, they need you to call what they are experiencing what it is: abuse and evil, and define what is actually normal and good.
This means you need to understand it yourself and learn from trusted advocates to be able to.
Be honest and blunt about the reality of abusers changing, and about enabling. Remind them that change only happens with honesty and consequences. Change doesn't require their harm.