The hippy oath “love is all you need” is deeper than people give it credit for
I think love / affection is the bodymind’s evolved mechanism to quickly change your reward function eg after having a child. And for just about everything, reward is enough sciencedirect.com/science/articl…
It’s also why if we solve programmable affection we’ll get a lot of the other things we care about for free
Whoops it’s “all you need is love” I got it backwards. I’m too used to “X is all you need” from AI papers 🙃
In a sense love is the real version of what society generally thinks willpower is. The problem is we don’t control it. But once we do we’ll all start behaving as if we had a tremendous amount of willpower
Imagine how much willpower it would take to care for your neighbors kid you don’t have an emotional bond to for a decade as thoroughly would your own child
It’d be basically impossible, willpower just isn’t strong enough. But love is, because that’s the cause of the difference
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Because I am likely to get attacked for even posting this essay: I anti-endorse 95%+ of what Slava posts, and we've fought in public like 10+ times. But his best stuff is really fantastic
This essay was built off this earlier one, which defined my product sense when I was an entrepreneur from 2013-2018. Including when I made a programming language demo to present to Slava at RethinkDB somewhere in the middle of that time range
Guy in gym front desk fingerguns me every day and it’s always a critical hit of bliss
He always looks incredibly corny too like he doesn’t try to hide it. And he’s maybe 28 and hot — not the typical fingergun situation — so I don’t know how this developed but I’m into it
I honestly do feel a little weird at the idea that maybe he fingerguns other people too. Like until now I’ve always thought of it as a me and him thing but I guess I don’t really know
@visakanv@metaphorician@metaLulie I’ve assembled my own like 30 frameworks for perception and I’ll get lost in describing them if I try so I’ll just describe what it feels like with no commentary. For context I’m walking around a little park right now
@visakanv@metaphorician@metaLulie Oh baby nick what do you feel wow you feel powerful why oh it’s because you’re excited for work why does that feel powerful oh you’re excited to show to me what your skills can do cool! Is everyone excited for the gym we’ll be there in fifteen minutes yeah it’s sad our ankle is
If the hypothesis is right that the shortest path to “permanent” self-love is detaching from your ego and forging the increased affection when you fuse back, a protocol that leverages disassociatices and empathogens may be ideal, like ketamine followed by MDMA in one session
I haven’t tried it and don’t know much about the combo or if there’s serious physiological considerations. This is just some speculation walking down the sidewalk to my cafe
Many of the cases I’ve seen (and myself) had ego death during the MDMA experience, but this came after lots of experience meditating and many experiences with ego death, so I suspect we could access that state more easily. But for those who can’t, ketamine works really well
In a lot of sports / research / etc people think getting better is a matter of quantitatively improving on a long continuous scale, but I actually think it’s often better to think of it as discrete bins of qualitative behavior and techniques. Are you a 3pm or 7pm gymgoer?
It’s more obvious in certain fields. For instance, no amount of running a typical small business well will turn it into a hypergrowth startup. Startups are qualitatively different, with different techniques (eg cap tables, raising big money) and personality types that thrive