Confession: I am guilty of being unhelpful in debates and in valuing zingers over discussions, but when I look within I see that this is coming from a *profound* exasperation and frustration with endless discussion that does nothing to alleviate the pain that we are coming from
Instead, many of these "debates" center the opinions and objections and comfort of those who do not seem to give a damn about us. Nothing changes. Yes I'm sometimes "unhelpful" and unwilling to debate because my idea of what is or isn't worth debating has been changing.
I have limited time, energy, and mindspace to try to convince an endless queue of people that our lived experiences are valid, that we deserve dignity, that the current system is extremely oppressive and racist against us, that we've been screwed over, and that we deserve better.
And increasingly I feel that I'd rather pour this time and energy into centering those who nobody centers, the millions of people who are living like orphans on this planet, with nobody really thinking about their past, present and future except to figure how to crush them longer
Yes I know that I had a far more conciliatory tone in the past and I was more willing to have calm debates. All of that did nothing to stop my family from being shattered, my people crushed, or my friends tortured and killed. At what point will the onus not be on us to "be nice"?
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